Why do I still love him despite everything he's put me through? I can't stop thinking about him? He has a new gf after 4

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He put me through hell, yet he has a new girlfriend (after 3 weeks) and I'm upset! How can I forget him? Why do I feel hurt?
My ex/partner is in the Army. He is 25 & i am 21.

We broke up 2 weeks ago and he already has a new girlfriend! They have been to London! And have uploaded photos together!

When i first met my ex/partner, he promised me the world. He took me to central London & we stayed in a nice hotel etc.. He treated me like i never had been treated. He rang me every night etc.


Little did i know, he was in mountains of debt, & was still paying back payday loans and had bailiffs turning up to his house. A few months into the relationship i found myself paying for everything.. i had to drive up to London to his barracks to see him, pay for his food, go on nights out with him and pay, and holidays..

He is also a compulsive liar.

However, he would always talk to/sleep with other girls. He would go out and ring me, & when he was in his room i would hear another girl, then he would hang up. His friends have told me girls have stayed in his barracks on numerous occasions.

Why do I care he has a new girl?

I can't stop checking their facebooks to see if they have pictures together... Does this make me crazy?

I saw a picture of them together on Instagram and it made me feel physically sick!!

But WHY do I still love him after all of this hurt? How am I going to get over it all?!
I wish I could just delete him from my life. He probably isn't thinking about me

[Howdoesitwork]

low self esteem is your problem

[River Euphrates]

He sounds like a real 'winner' - just be glad you don't have any kids with him.

Don't go out and get another 'winner' like him on the rebound - go out and do things you like to do, maybe take up a new hobby, meet some people, and build up your self-confidence.

[Hector Ajax]

It will bother you until you see he was the worst possible choice for you, and you move on. Don't grieve yourself to death over a trashy bum.

[digimutt]

You broke up with him for very good reasons. He is your ex so what did he do to you in taking another girlfriend. You are obsessed. You need to stop stalking them and move on with your own life. How. Stop thinking about him and the past. when you do drift towards that, stop and go do something else to stop the train of thought. You are keeping yourself in that same pain as long as you continue to obsess over this loser. He is not the one hurting you, you are