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David · 05-07-2014, 11:26 AM

I have good family good friends i guess.... yet i always feel so alone, all my life im almost 18 now so i know it may be some ridiculous teenage depression but i am lost i feel so numb all the time I feel way mature and not like anyone from my age group and I have really bad anxiety and feel breathless sometimes when im at school. sometimes i'm just standing around with friends and just space out listening to music and then i feel like i just want to be alone.... i'm at home and i barely want to talk to my parents cause i want to be alone and then I feel soo lonesome so i talk to my many friends that i have over facebook and sometimes it becomes overwhelming and so i stop talking to them or take a while to reply and try to distract myself with video games and things.... I don't know really what exactly is the cause maybe it's because i listen to really depressing music all the time? yet music is the only thing that really gives me comfort..... I work out every other day, drug free, and occasionally drinks but nothing really helps i do tend to not tell people my feelings and things cause that's the way i am although i have talked about my problems to some people but that still doesn't really help out much oh and now i have this skin condition that will come and go for the rest of my life and there's no cure apparently just ways to help the annoyances and that has really been killing me recently just cause it really sucks..... But if anyone can give me some tips anyone whose gone through some struggles or anything i'd appreciate it.

Anna · 05-07-2014, 11:33 AM

Hi. I know exactly how you feel, pretty similar story. Al though I'm sorry I can't answer your question I thought I should just post this answer to cause I can relate to you. I'm only 14, and I feel really depressed and I get times I feel way more depressed than others. I have bad anxiety and get panic attacks, and have severe depression. When I was little I was happy, and looked foward to life. But now I wake up questioning if I should even have mine now. Sorry if this is depressing to you, once again just feel like I can relate. I have 1 friend that hasn't been a good one lately and my family had been ignoring me. Do you feel numb and literally empty inside? That's how I do. I have a lot more to say but I'll end it there. Once again, sorry I can't really answer your question, I'm just relating. Just keep your head up high with a smile even if it's fake and look forward to something, anything. I hope you feel better(:

A conscience · 05-07-2014, 11:34 AM

It's a stage you're going through. Just hang in there, and don't do anything stupid. Continue with your life like everyone else, even if it seems meaningless. As for tips:
1. Continue listening to music since it helps you.
2. Try to think about the big picture of things. Imagine yourself 20 years from now and try to imagine how your older self would react to the mood you are in now.
3. Get yourself to do some volunteer work or even just random acts of kindness for people around you. It may seem corny and fake, but the act of doing it helps, regardless if your emotions are into it.
4. Keep a journal and write down your thoughts whenever you feel moody. Reading old entries would put things into perspective.

If you know what you're anxious about, you can talk to a person you trust about it. If you trust no one, talk to yourself about it! Literally speak or write to yourself, describing what is bothering you. It sounds crazy, but it's not.

David · 05-07-2014, 11:36 AM

David,

I'm seventeen and I'm also named David, so we already have a connection lol. I went through a lot of loneliness and depression, although I had an absolutely insane family, I can you offer you not advice but a very simple method. You're free to read whatever you'd like about medicine/spirituality/religion/metaphysics, but what worked for me was a simple meditation technique called "looking". There's info on this at justonelook.org

Basically what it does is get rid of what this guy calls the fear of life, which is the context that are personalities have been shaped in.. once the underlying fear is gone, our personalities reshape and we live sane happy lives. Kinda sounds like a load of bullcrap but it's doing it for me and there's nothing to lose.

good luck David,
David

Siobhan · 05-07-2014, 11:43 AM

To you and the person who also left a reply. What you are feeling is completely normal. It's all unfortunately just a part of growing up and adolescence. Your bodies change so much during this time and your hormones are all over the place trying to deal with these changes and trying to balance themselves out. It takes time before your body stops this and you start to feel relatively normal.

Like you said, you feel alone even though you're surrounded by family and friends. Believe me you are not alone and it may seem like everyone else is doing fine and it's just you that's going through this but trust me, you couldn't be more wrong.

Keeping your feelings all bolted up inside isn't going to help. You have to let it out otherwise it'll eat away at you. You don't always have to talk to someone about it. Keep a diary of your feelings both good and bad. Have a creative outlet to blow off steam and use those feelings. Life isn't always easy but I guarantee it will get better.