I Kinda Like My Friend?

[tyber]

This girl that goes to my school randomly added me on Facebook in December and has been talking to me pretty much non-stop. She always mentions how she doesn't have a boyfriend and hates how people go for looks over personality. However, with that said she told me that I'm not attractive enough to/for her so she wont date me but she also said she loves talking to me/hanging out and thinks I have an awesome personality. Now, I'm not like super crazy about this girl but I do kind of like her a little bit and I'm afraid that if I keep talking to her and hanging around her I'm going to really start to like her and just end up hurting myself in the end. She seems to think that wont happen because it hasn't with her other guy friends.

She has also mentioned that in the past she's had no attraction to friends but over time from really getting to know them and hanging out, she has very rarely developed feelings for them so I shouldnt count on it but it's possible. The thing is though, do I keep talking to her and risk me just liking her more while she still views me as undatable or is it worth the "risk" to hope things change? On the off chance she ends up with someone else (She's never had a boyfriend before and sometimes doubts herself), I'd probably get hurt/jealous too. She's always said it's her dream to have her boyfriend be a friend first. Any advice?

I cant really just cut her off. I don't really want to either, neither one of us really has that many friends.
Well, the thing is she's just being very honest/direct. That's just how she is with everybody. And yeah, I'm not going to change my attitudes/behaviors around her, so far she seems to really enjoy how I am/have been, I'm just not physically attractive enough for her I guess. Bit hypocritical of her to complain people take looks over personality when she does the same thing. Though, I guess if you cant view yourself ever wanting to kiss/have s*x with the person, it wouldn't work anyway, right?

[Rebecca]

Just stay friends don't push for a relationship... Have to earn her trust..

[Nourhan]

It seems like she likes you but wasn't completely sure when she said you weren't attractive enough.

Act cool some girls like when guys are hard to get!!

[Quaz-Girl]

Ok, first of all, I think it's a little rude that she told you straight to your face that you are not "attractive enough."
If she really is your friend, she wouldn't just tell you that you are "undateable" like that. If you are developing feelings for her, you may need to distance yourself before you really get hurt. It's obvious she's uninterested in you by the things she's said to you about being unattractive, and that may or may not change.

You can keep trying to get in closer and closer with her, but make sure you are not trying to change who you are so that this girl will like you. Sometimes if a girl makes a comment to a boy like, "But you are not cool enough" or something like that, the boy will do everything he can to live up to that girl's expectations. But in the end, if you are pretending to be something you are not with a girl, it's just not worth it.

Maybe there is a girl out there that likes you for you. Personality AND looks. And one that won't judge you by saying you don't live up to her standards of attractiveness. It's up to you whether you still want to pursue this "dream girl." Or you could try to meet someone who accepts you for who you are.