Is everyone out to be fb? Or ff? I don't get it.. Please answer nice.?

[Kelly773]

I'm newer to the re-dating scene if you will. With 2 divorces behind me. In 1 1/2 yrs. dating where I have to live for now, not that it is probably different anywhere else, I have had a total of 6 dates. 5 from the internet, one a guy I used to work at the same place, different shifts. I've got my standards, and one is that I don't want a man just to be in my pants. Granted, sex is nice. But why does everyone, guys and girls too, seem to want that and only that? What's the deal? I live in the bible belt of East Texas. (ONE of my problems, I know) but even talking to these guys and blatantly saying "I AM NOT A FB OR FF". They come off all nice and seem to think on the date that I didn't mean what I said. Discussed this in depth with my 6th date last Friday. (I know, 13th...don't get me started). It was an afternoon movie (I paid my own way because he was "late") yea, right. Anyway, afterwards he wanted to go rent a room by the hour......UGH!!!!!~! Any nice guys left? HELP!
Ok, I do have experience in dating. Hence the 2 divorces. I'm not stupid nor lack intelligence. WHERE do you go to meet these "nice" guys? Don't tell me church, as I've heard the horror stories there. I need some practical, tried advice. And for those that don't understand the fb or ff, I didn't either until my first date....f***buddies or f***friends. You do the math and I'm glad to have educated you at my expense. This is terrible! I can't believe all dating has come to this when or maybe not when, you are on the older side. I'm sure the younger people face it and I'm not THAT old, but still, don't I deserve a fighting chance? I have a lot to give and I don't mean just in the bedroom. I am really frustrated as to what to do. Where to go...Everyone says there's a "Mr. Right" out there. Well, I would just like to meet a Mr. Nice. Maybe friends...then who knows? It's rought in these trenches!~!!!
See? That's what I am talking about. Everyone says, "hey, hang in there, he's out there somewhere...etc.".

And to my first answer person, how can you know what I'm talking about if you don't know what fb and ff means? Just because you live in southeast Texas doesn't mean you understand the question.
MY ONLY KIDS ARE MY 2 SCHNAUZERS.....

[pattimari]

Yes, there are many nice guys out there still. In today's time, it is very wise to not jump in bed with someone until you have developed a good relationship first. Don't give up hope, you will find your nice guy if you hold your ground long enough.

[ladyofadc]

First of all, I don't know what FB or FF means. And second of all, I actually live in southeast texas, so I know what you're talking about! Point blank, a guy who is worth your time will not ask you to go to a room after a date! Ugh! Trust me, they all aren't like that! Where are you finding these guys at? If they are from the internet, I would say they possibly think that if you meet online, then you must be "up for it". My advice is if you must look for love online due to dating inexperience, then try formal sites such as match.com or something like that.

[Mitu]

sorry girl!i dont understand ur qn

[pcgiant]

There are nice guys left. Lots of them. Most times they are where you'd least expect them to be. It's nature to want to always have sex, to 'spread their seed and pass on the genes, it's imbred without people even realizing it'. But humans have another side of them that lets them control themselves. Some have less control, others have more. even those with little control can be really good guys. Good Luck!

[Damian]

As i hear you, since you have children it does limit the time you can spend "searching." Do not fear, you aren't the only one. Guys do tend to want a ff or fb as you put it. They don't want any strings attached or they don't want commitment. It's hard this day and age because everyone is concerned with their own self rather than thinking towards a common goal.

I'll tell you that i know for sure places to go that you'll find nice guys. Remember, nice guys don't live in caves or underneath a waterfall or in magically guarded places tht keep you from entering. No, they are normal people that have normal lives like the rest of us. They have problems and they have quirks. What can you do? But, to find "that guy" is certainly going t take time, and it might even take some practice to reel one in.

First places to go. The grocery store, public library, college if you can take classes, community centers like the YMCA (watch out for those ones though), or flat out in the most inconspicuous place like a hot dog stand, and yes even in a social networking site such as Yahoo Answers (it happens). Unfortunately in my case meeting people is a huge issue, because i don't know how to approach a person. That and this is the absolute worst time in my life for a relationship.

It seems as if though your standards are set high and that is good. Don't lower them just so you can be with someone. Stay strong. It just might be around the corner. You never know, someone can walk around the corner of a building and damn near knock you over and the rest will be history. It happens.

[Stephanie J]

I do hear you. I'm 29, divorced, no kids but the animals. I have been 2 yrs now dating. Several dates from YPersonals, one that was an old boyfriend from years ago. One of them I had a casual "relationship" with for about 6 months. This was shortly after my divorce, so just what I was looking for. The rest have been just dates, some single dates, some dated on and off for weeks/months. None of them anything serious.

I haven't wanted anything serious, but have recently decided that I think I'm ready for a relationship, real bf/gf stuff. Do you think I have come across anyone even remotely possible? Nope.

The best man I have dated in the last 2 years my step-dad found for me. Yes, found for me. He met him on a flight and introduced me. Said he was a great guy. You know what? He was right. He is a great guy. We went out for a few weeks before he started backing away. Bummer.

So, if possible, someone a family member or friend knows and if they like the guy, you probably will too. Although, there aren't very oftem many of them around.

Hugs hun, right there with ya.