My bestfriend and I both like the same guy for a year now what do I do?

[957]

He does stuff to both me and her that make us think he likes us but then whenever we talk about him she says stuff to me like "I liked him first" or "He knew me before you" and because were bestfriends our friends are the same and they all say I suit with him and that he likes me because he always comes and sits with me and because he will always reply back to my messages and not hers but then she started getting angry so I told her she could talk to him on mine because he wouldnt reply to her and she did and she made things so awkward between me and him and she doesnt even care anymore because she knows that they are starting to talk now and when she went on my fb account she said stuff like "you suit _ _ _ _ _ _" or "you and _ _ _ _ _ _ would make such a good couple" and when she finished messaging him I ended up blocking him because things were awkward and now all she does is make nick names of him and her and always try and compete and see who gets his attention.....anyways I told my friends I will stop liking him because it will ruin our friendship but its too hard I just cant stop like that what do I do guys please help

[Ellie]

Unless this guy is really stupid then he knows you both like him and is taking advantage of you both. You say he "does things" with you both and I think that just proves he doesn't really care about either of you.

You should just move on from both him and your "friend", jealousy is ruining things between you and if she is saying nasty things about you and to you then she isn't worth your time either.

[James Blackley]

Let me put it to you this way,

Majority of relationships fail, and what you are experiencing is some school girl crush on a guy which is temproary and will fade over time but what you have with your best friend runs a lot deeper, is far more important and will outlast any guy.

You need to ask yourself what's more important here.

[Chris Sellick]

The mutual rule dictates who he should be with.If he likes you then he should be with you.If he likes her then he should be with her.If he likes both of you he needs to figure out who he is more compatible with and then decide.Its his decision no matter what.

Its when there isnt anything mutual between 2 people that it doesnt work between them.Its the same if you were interested in a guy who wasnt interested in you.

If you had the choice between 2 guys then the choice would be yours.