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gracefulandjust · 05-12-2014, 09:49 PM

A couple of weeks ago I found out that the guy I have been dating for a year has lied about having facebook and instagram accounts. I came across his fb account accidentally because of mutual friends and he posted a comment that I saw. All of the pics that I took of him were on his account (none with me), and I found him on instagram too.I trusted that when I asked him if he had fb that he wasn't lying. To top it off I saw him posting a lot of flirtatious comments on other women's walls, and same with instagram - saying how he would smack some woman's as%, how another one is so kissable, and yet another one got so many compliments from him that I can't even count. So he keeps trying to say he spends time with me not them so I shouldn't feel insecure and should appreciate it, but considering there's no hint of me existing on these sites I get the impression that he wants to hide me so that he can make it seem to these women like he's single. I don't know if this is something I can come to terms with in the future. All I keep thinking of is how he finds all of these women so beautiful that he makes public posts and compliments them but there are no pics of me and he will not add me to fb (he says he deleted it now) and instagram. Any kind of feedback is appreciated.

Patrick · 05-12-2014, 09:52 PM

RED FLAG ALERT!!! ditch the dodo. If hes lying to you about that then he has something to hide! you deserve better, he'll end up a pig and alone.

lexea · 05-12-2014, 10:07 PM

Honestly i believe he's hiding something, why not tell you about them? Never come to terms with that if he truly likes you or loves you he would want everyone to know i never would let my boyfriend do anything like that girls are nasty and so are guys there is no reason why he cant put you on any of those unless theres something wrong. And you should have slapped him in his face, if my boyfriend ever had any of those things on his wall we would be done, because im pretty sure he wouldn't be okay with you doing that, it may seem harmless but a kiss turns into other things and a shoulder to cry on can turn into a lot more than just a comment, im going to be really blunt with you.. If he continues to act like that and you stay with him its your stupidity. and log into someone else account he could have just blocked you so you couldn't see it. And him saying you should appriciate that he spends time with you??? Wtf hes your boyfriend thats your job. You take off all the pictures of him and write on guys walls and see how he feels, men are pigs and if you don't make it known that you will not put up with his childish facebook and instagram games he will take it farther than that trust me. I don't mean to be rude but most girls don't understand that guys and girls do stupid stuff. Im suprised how calm you were with him because he would have got hurt if it was my boyfriend. I trust you will follow your heart and know that isn't right. Good luck girl. <3

Star · 05-12-2014, 10:21 PM

Wow that sounds EXACTLY like my boyfriend I've been dealing with this for almost 2 yrs. He most likely won't change. Mine hasn't he says he delted his fb too and he did, but he just made a new one. There was no mention of me or anything and he was lying to girls saying he made all this money and goes to college. These were girls he knows that he used to have a past with. I recently found out that he was hanging out with this one girl cuz I texted her and she didn't even know who I am. She told me that they just hung out and smoked but I gave him so many chances to tell the truth he still lied. Ur boyfriend sounds exactly like mine so he's probably lying about a lot more things then just the fb and instagram. Check his phone there's probably strange numbers in there. If u can, just dump him cuz he's not gonna change. I've tried dumping mine but I love him so much and I keep hoping he will change but deep down I know he won't but everytime I try to dump him I just hurt too much.