Boyfriend has blocked me from a new facebook he created..please read...?

[Elizabeth =]]

Hello So I was on facebook a week or so ago and one of my boyfriends friends had written a status saying "His name' or 'his name' i don't know which one hahaa'' now if you tag someone on facebook it writes their full name. One of the names was not a link. Unfortunately I know what it looks like to be blocked by someone. So confused, I log onto my old ALT account for facebook games and type in his name and there we go, two facebooks. Even more confused now. Why would he create another facebook and block me from it? something is not right. And what is worse, is that I would have never even found out about it if that boy had not written a status. So I confront him. I ask why and he just laughs for about two minutes. Then proceeds to say " the tribunal knew you would find it" talking about his friends. Then he goes on about how he feels he cant say anything on facebook anymore and he doesn't want to upset me. That is just ridiculous. He says he basically cant trust me and feels like hes constantly being watched by me. So thats just..awesome..I ask what he could say that would hurt me and his reply was that sometimes he would rather be at work than come home. Heartbreaking to hear. I had to drop the conversation so I would not cry. It still haunts me though. I dont know what to do. I know there is more to the story I just dont know how to ask him. I'm not the best at speaking, without a speech haha. I have loved him for six or seven years now and he finally moved back so we've been dating for about eight months. I'm sorry to write so much. I don't want to ask anyone I know and this seemed to be my best idea. Please give me some reasons he could have created this facebook account and hidden it. And what I can say..He is really difficult to talk to and I might only get one answer out of him so I need to make it the right question. Thankyou all very much and have a nice day

[Rankine Zero]

Sounds like he is not comfortable sharing everything with you.

Do you regularly check everything he does ? Do you get upset if you do not approve ?
Your reaction does indicate that you easily get emotional and offended.

I guess that is why he chose to have some privacy.

I think you should talk about it.

[Gameron]

The trouble with Facebook is that in a relationship it's open all access, and it opens areas and problems that you wouldn't otherwise face. As much as relationships should 'share' everything and be as open as possible, quite frankly there are some things that a person just needs to keep to themselves (or their friends) as a way of de-stressing.

I'm sure there are times when you yourself are annoyed at your boyfriend and you say something to a friend, it's likely flippant and in the long run probably doesn't mean anything at all, but once it's on Facebook it looks less flippant and more serious than it may be.

It isn't wrong of him to sometimes think "He'd rather be at work than home", however painful as it is to hear, work is straight-forward, it's not complicated or confusing. Sometimes the "home life" is. It is however wrong that his friends then take it to facebook, but friends tend to do that and tease the person knowing it will cause trouble.

You need to get him to understand this, and this is a chance for you both to strengthen your relationship rather than set yourself in a routine of 'hiding' things.

It is wrong that a partner opens up a facebook with the intention of hiding it from the other rather than openly discussing the problems, but he obviously thinks it's easier than dealing with the situation with you, you need to take charge and show him that you can be perfectly reasonable when discussing relationship problems and that it is the correct thing to do, and if you can't do that then you need to get out now, because the relationship will-not be one you want.

[G M]

Several points to touch on:

1: He found your confrontation funny and chose to be dismissive J.M.O. this demonstrates a lack of concern for your feelings not a good start for a relationship.

2:Deflecting the blame again not cool this is the point where one should take ownership of their actions, as opposed to blaming the fact that he created the page on not being able to say anything that you could read and that being your fault.

3: If you haven't done anything to merit a lack of trust, odds are when someone states that they cannot trust you. Then you probably shouldn't trust them, again J.M.O. looking at a face book profile of a significant other and commenting on their posts is not reason to create a separate profile "with the exception of crazy stalker activity".

Hate to say this but you have a decision to make do you want to continue with this individual, or do you want to move on. I know exactly what I would do, you have to dig deep and figure out what you want to do.

Whatever that end result may be, I hope it makes you happy. Because regardless of whatever I type that's whats ultimately going to matter in in your world.

Good Luck,

[Daniel]

If He Blocked you From His Facebook He is Trying to Hide Something From You i Would Talk to Him About it

[Filip]

create another account, and then catch him.