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honey · 10-01-2012, 04:42 AM

I'm 16. Everybody says that Strict parents equals sneaky kids. For me I should know kind of. My mom isn't really that strict. But she is overprotective a lot. I know she is trying to help me and watch me. But the real problem is her fiancee. He is way to overprotective and way to strict. He always claims that I cannot date or have a facebook, twitter, tumblr, instagram or any of that stuff. But the first two I kind of have already. But they don't know it. Anyways they don't let me wear clothes that shows my figure either. I can't really go over or have any sleep overs at anybody house. Plus I don't get invited to birthday parties either. Which is really hard because when I go on fb or twitter I always see picks of people having fun. I know these group of people that got into a limo because it was a girls 16th birthday( I knew her too and the others very well.) I felt sad kind of when I seen it. Anyways is it true that some strict parents make sneaky kids? I mean I make good grades last year I had a 3.4. I'm very shy because of the rules that they make. He's not even my real father which makes it hard, and difficult for me to do things. I feel like I'm missing out on a lot of teenager stuff to do. When I go to college I plan to do the stuff that I want, and not to be controlled by anybody.
Questions: Do Strict parents really create sneaky kids?
What happened to the girls or boys who you knew that were shy once, and got out of control once they left the house? Do you have any stories? Thanks.
I really need some advice. My birthday is in 2 months and 3 days(turning 17).
They said once I get 18 I can do anything I want. Are they telling the truth?

Lillith · 10-01-2012, 04:50 AM

I don't know about other people but I sure did have some strict parents and yes I was very sneaky. I sneaked out and lied to my parents so many times. I wasnt allowed to ivnvite my friends over, i wasnt allowed to have a boyfriend, and i wasnt allowed to hang out with friends that much. If i waned to go somewhere like Disney World or Universal i had to come home around maybe 9. By the time i would get there it would be like 8:00!

If you keep telling them no no no they will eventually rebel because they feel like their life is boring.

i had a friend in high school was the the most innocent girl i know. but her parents werent strict at all. now she is a party girl who does drugs and sleeps around. and now she is being sneaky about her lifestyle.

Yes once you are 18 you can do anything you want......well mostly anything. you cant drink of course

Amy Miller · 10-01-2012, 04:50 AM

I think whether you have super laid-back parents of super strict ones... There will ALWAYS be sneaky kids no matter what. I just think with super strict parents, it's mor common to have sneaky kids-- especially is teenagers because it's almost programmed into most of our brains to do the opposite of what is told, in other words rebel! If you have a super laid-back parent(s) then you could be sneaky in terms of if you're doing something you know you shouldn't and you MIGHT get in trouble for it... That person would just say, "Oh yeah, MY parents won't care!" even when they actually might.

Jayjay · 10-01-2012, 04:50 AM

Yes it's mostly true.. But I'm like you, strict parents make their children shy and don't get invited because everyone knows that the parents are strict. My mom still controls my brother after he's moved out, so really that's a lie. I don't care, I'll do what I want when I move out when I'm 18, she can't control me I'm moving far away from my family!

pink ballerina · 10-01-2012, 04:50 AM

Wow!! I'm really sorry about this. Anyway your moms fiancee sounds strict, wants to control everything you do, and he isn't even your real dad so you don't have to listen to him. He didn't know you for your 16 years of life. He's an assh***. I suggest talking to your mom about going over to peoples houses. He wasn't there when you were born so he can't dictate on what you can and can't do. Seriously if your mom wasn't as strict before she had a fiancee then tell your mom you are missing out on the best years of life right now. And yea when you turn 18 you're considered an adult and don't have to follow their rules. HAPPY EARLLYYY 17th BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!

squarepie021 · 10-01-2012, 04:50 AM

yes.im in my 30's and im sneaky towards my parents when it comes to what im doing and where im going and when ill be home.

Anita · 10-01-2012, 04:50 AM

YES IT DOES

noisyhall845 · 10-01-2012, 04:50 AM

Yes they do. When I was younger and my parents didnt let me do much I would ditch school and do a lot of bad things. I always wanted to get a piercing so bad and I got one which my parents didnt know about I woud take it off at home and put it on in my room so it wouldnt close. I would tell my parents I was doing something innocent when i was really doing something bad. I was a CRAZY teenager outside of school. I got two tickets and one fine. It stopped ofcourse when I met my boyfriend and now that I look back on it , I was getting too out of controll and I wouldnt think about doing those things now. I think the fact that you are not allowed to do it makes you want to do it mord. Now my parents let me do anything as long as i get home by curfew. As for the whole 18 thing I think its the stupidest excuse to do something, yes you are legally considered an adult at 18 but if you want to do something when your parents say no then its a no because think about it they pay the bills they pay rent and in some cases even till give you money. You might have a job but you dont provide everything for your self. When you pay your bills and provide for Your self Alone thats when you are a true adult

nicepen456 · 10-01-2012, 04:50 AM

Yes because my mom is SUPER strict that she doesn't even let me hang out with friends and if I do I have to bring my little brother along, I can't leave the front of the house unless it's to go to the store and even then she says that I have to have some one with me. I'm going on 14 and my mom says that any websites I sign up for she wants my password, even my email. I can't hang out with boys and I can't visit my friends house even my best friend who I've known since I was 6. Also, everything else your mom & her fiance tells you. But the difference is that she lets my younger brother (he's 11) leave with his friends whenever he wants, he hops over fences and visits their houses which are many blocks away from my house. And last year, his friend almost got him beat up and they ran to my house with the people following right behind them but she still lets him go out with them. And my friends' houses are only down the street from mine!

Now I do things in secret even though it's still nothing. There were 3 months for summer break and I did not leave the house ONCE to even visit or see my friends (I talked to them on fb which I'm not even supposed to have but it's my only source of communication with them other than school). The only time I left the house was when my mom forced me to go to my cousin's party. That's how little freedom I have, and you can't talk to her about it because she'll just tell me to shut up and say it's because she doesn't trust people and because my brother is a boy that it doesn't matter how old he is so he can go wherever he wants.