I'm in so much trouble! Please help me!?

[595]

I already know I did an awful thing, there's no need to remind me. It would mean so much to me if you read this and answered it...


So last December, me and 4 of my friends were kinda mean to this girl, Clair. We would tell one another about how stupid she was and how she only got good grades because her mom negotiated with her teachers (which may or may not be true, we aren't sure). But we NEVER said anything to Clair's face, or to anyone but each other. We would privately message one another about Clair on twitter (DM). Somehow Clair found out, but we felt so guilty that we sicncerly apologized and she forgave us. But apparently, one of the 4 girls who i had been messaging back and forth with on twitter showed Clair's father a mean message that I sent about Clair. Then, he COMPLETLEY blew up. He showed my cheer coach, (who is also Clair and my other friends coach) the message and I was kicked off the cheer squad. He showed my school principal, and Im currently suspended from school. All of my friends pretended not to have taken any part of this, and are now teaming up with Clair to form an anti bullying campaign. None of them got in any trouble!! My picture was in the school newspaper with the headline, "Bully is finally put to a stop". I can't even leave my house without people giving me dirty looks, and I had to delete all of my social networking accounts because I couldn't bear to look at any more pictures of kids wearing "Justice for Clair" tee shirts. At the end of the month, the school has arranged a meeting between me, my parents, Clair and her parents, my friends and their parents and my cheer coach. At the meeting, I'm going to be "punished for my decision" and it will be determined whether or not I will be allowed to continue at my current school. So basically, I'm going to this meeting to verbally have the sh*t beat out of me by people who used to care about me. What can I do about my situation? Moving is not an option. Any advice is appreciated.

[Brittni]

Have you been honest with your parents, and teachers and told them it was 4 of u? You should defintly tell on your other friends...or just suck it up.. those are pretty much your only options.

[Stephany]

I'm curious as to what the message said.... I mean this is alot of trouble for jus one message

[Zoe]

Oh dear!
you are in quite a situation
well lets see what can be done.

Firstly, its clear that your friends are not very nice people. You should talk to your parents and be honest with them, and ask for an apology. An apology can take you very far. Accept that you were at fault and you will never repeat such behaviour and that you did not realise that you were being so mean, cause you thought it was harmless, since you weren't saying anything to Clair (to her face).
This might help you strengthen your case.

Don't worry you will not be expelled from school. This is all scam to make you bad. So relax my dear.

Lastly, at the meeting do not talk back, at all!!! stay calm and keep apologising and admitting your fault.

[Zoe]

First of all, relax. Hold your head high and leave your house! Show people that you DID apologize and were not alone. You didn't happen to save any text messages from your friends bullying the girl, did you? How about on Facebook? Find some ammunition to show that you were not the only one.
By the way, your friends are so not cool for not sticking up for you. Lose the losers. "Clair" sounds like a spoiled little brat. Take the punishment like a woman, and go on with your life. They went to extremes by wearing T-shirts, and publicly demeaning you. I feel that those actions were very wrong. When you have "the meeting", I would go ahead and tell them that you were not the only one, but others were doing the same, if not worse. Stand Up For Yourself! Don't you dare let them bring you down alone.
If I were there, I would stick up for you, and walk all over town with you. If anyone stared, I would stare right back!
Good Luck! You're going to be ok.