Is he using me? I met him on tinder....?

[Lana]

hi so i created a tinder account about 2 and a half weeks ago, on the first day, i got talking to this awesome swedish guy. he seemed really friendly, and was just so nice! the conversation was very flirtatious, and we arranged to meet up in the following week. I went over to his place, we watched a movie, and then we got it on (i know, i know, stupid idea). he told me he wanted to see me again, and texted me all the following week, again, the texts where quite flirtatious and we both couldn't wait to see each other. on the second date, i went over to his place, watched a movie, had sex, then went out for dinner. he told me he would love to see me again. he texted me the next day saying that he had a great time, however, this week we've been texting a lot less frequently. is he bored of me already?? he's taking longer to text back, and the conversations are much shorter.

also, i know that he had a long term girlfriend who he was with for about 2 years. the last picture he uploaded of them together was 12 weeks ago, but only yesterday i found a tagged photo of them together just 4 weeks ago!! he moved to the UK a month ago, she still lives in sweden. i've been assuming that they are broken up, since his facebook profile says 'single', and there doesn't seem to be any facebook contact with her. he hasn't mentioned her at all, and even said to me 'i'm not like other guys you know, i actually like you!'. whats going on??? i'm so confused...

[Harry]

My dear you need to understand that every relationship has different phases in it, it keeps on changing once you move on. At the start of a relationship there is always so much to know about each other. But once you have progressed ahead, in your case 2 and a half weeks, there are no immediate questions for each other all day long. The thing about him not replying immediately is because he knows that your not going anywhere and ur secured with him. This does not mean that he has any ill intentions or anything. He might genuinely be busy or something. Never over analyze something my dear. You've also mentioned about his ex-girlfriend, i don't personally see anything happening on that front too. You need to learn to trust a person my dear. It takes a lot of effort and love to sustain a relationship.

This relation is just 2 and a half weeks old, now you have to be realistic of what your expecting out of it. You can't expect him to be like your husband or anything. Give it time and space dear. You should also not forget the fact that you enjoy his company. If he does keep ignoring you or gives you concrete reasons for you to doubt him, then only bail out of it. You also remember that you'll have met through a casual dating app, where there are no strings attached to any relationship. If your looking for a serious kind of relation or something like that then you should talk to him about this. He should also have the opportunity to know you better and then make a decision about the future.


So bottomline, give this relation a little more time to develop and mature. Once you have known him better and want to turn this into a serious thing, talk to him about it. If things don't turn out well, then there is plenty of fish out there to choose from.

Hope things work out for the best for you. Take care