Why am I still crazy jealous of her, even after I broke up with my boyfriend, a year later?? Please read the whole thing

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I'm at a pretty pathetic level of being extremely jealous right now.

I had a great relationship with my ex boyfriend and we had sex regularly. Once when we were laying in bed, he looked at his phone to check the time, had an Instagram notification and out of habit opened it. As he opened his Instagram, his page was on a picture or his ex girlfriend. I was crushed!

He felt horrible and ended up blocking and unfollowing her. He also stopped following all other girls he didn't really know. I didn't tell him to do any of this. He also said she was ugly and immature.

We ended up breaking up because I felt guilty about the sex being underaged. We broke up still loving each other.

I stalked this chick on Instagram and I see that my ex boyfriend started to follow her again AND commented on her selfie that she looked like SCARLET JOHANSON. And I'm so jealous because she is very very photogenic. But all her pictures are like her making sexy faces and skanky captions/ comments left by other dudes.

I have no idea who this girl is as a person. Yet my ego is destroyed everytime I see her. And I think about her a lot. How do I stop this? Help because it is getting really bad!!!

[anonymous]

I have a similar problem. My boyfriend hooked up with his best female friend just before we started dating - even though he had a girlfriend at the time - and now I get a sinking jealous feeling every time I see her facebook him, or see her name come up on his phone when she calls. It hurts because I know there's history, and because, even though he says says she's ugly and immature (my boyfriend says that too!), he still makes time for her and still acts the friend.

I don't really know what to say. I'd suggest telling him you still love him, and ask him to wait until you two can legally be together (I was underage with my first serious boyfriend too, and we broke up for the same reason - he waited for me). If he says he'll wait, then tell him you're uncomfortable with him commenting on other girl's pictures, especially when he compares them to gorgeous celebrities and compliments them. If he loves you, he'll listen.

If he says he won't wait for you, then you may need to cut him out of your life. Seeing him flirt with other girls will just hurt you more, and you don't deserve that.