need some relationship advice?

[Liam]

OK here goes,

Ive been seeing this girl, who is also a very good friend of mine for about 18 months now on and off. It all started basically just as friends with benefits and that's the way it carried on, unfortunately i couldn't stay emotional unattached and quickly fell in love with her. She told me that she liked and cared for me but she wasn't ready for a relationship as she was to busy and wanted to live and see the world. I was gutted but we kept on sleeping together. She went to Australia for a year and i was miserable and pined after her the whole time, we spoke nearly ever day and when she finally came back we got together again, she said she wanted to be exclusive but didn't want a relationship again. She is a amazingly beautiful girl and gets a lot of male attention and due to her job (a stipper) she does work horrible hours but this never bothered me as it was always me she was coming home too. After only a month i came on to strong and basically said i cant do this anymore, if you dont want a future with me then we cant be together. I was heartbroken and mulled around for months, i even took a job in France for 3 months just to get away from her. We also have the same group of friends so it was impossible to cut her out completely.

anyway, we went nearly 9 months without seeing each other and then one night we started to talk and then i found myself in her bed again. This was Jan 2014, we started to see each other again and things were amazing, we didn't talk about what we were it was just amazing being in each others company. One day i thought id surprise her and booked us a weekend away in Paris. A few days before we went i found myself blurting out my feelings again, telling her i was still madly in love with her wanted to be with her etc. I even cried, im not ashamed to say it. I thought this would ruin our weekend in Paris but low and behold we still went

We had the most amazing 3 days away and were basically a couple for the entire time, it was am amazing but now here where the problem is.

Shortly after we got back she text me one night after midnight telling me that she wasn't going to lie to her self any more and that she was in love with me and had been for some time. This of course put the biggest smile on my face ever. This now leads us to the present and my question.

The past few weeks we have been spending a lot of time together as a couple but not actually officially as we haven't had that talk again. This past week though shes gone completely cold on me saying shes to busy too see me or even talk on the phone. I naturally got annoyed and moaned that it seemed she was making time for everyone but me. She is extremely busy with varies things and doesn't actually get a lot of free time and i respect and understand that but last week was just as busy but she still made time for me and answered her phone within one ring. She text me a few days ago saying that i know the situation about how busy she is and that she doesn't get a lot of free time and that making her feel bad about it isn't going to help. I wasn't trying to make her feel bad i just love her and miss her so bloody much!. she then started to be really off with me, hardly answer calls, blunt answers in texts and never started any contact it was always me.

in a last ditch attempt I text her yesterday morning saying i dont want to lose you and the way im acting i think im going to so i said to her that im going to give her space and ill see her when she has the time and that i love her and miss her more than anything else in the world. Me saying that isn't being childish it's me understanding the situation. She still hasn't text me back or even bothered to get in touch at all. I'm really gutted by this as it feels like she really doesn't care. I know she has seen the message and shes been on Facebook etc since. I think she seems to be provoking another response from me as shes put on Facebook looking forward to a fun filled weekend with guys.

HELP ME?. what should i do. Carry on with the no contact and if she cares enough she will come back to me?

sorry to go on but thanks for listening/reading

[Sarah]

its best to tlk about all of this TO the girl. its better to be straight forward.