Dating Advice...help!?

[Emily]

Ok so basically i have come out of a really abusive relationship 9 months ago, i had a baby with my ex but he is not in contact, we pretty much broke up the day my baby was born as he was into dealing drugs and i did not want my daughter around this (he lied to me the whole relationship i found out about the drugs while i was pregnant)
I am 22 years old he was 43 (another lie he told me he was 32 when i met him) Basically our whole relationship was a lie, he lied to me about other girls about EVERYTHING. He has been awful to me since i have had my baby and is going to prison next month for a few offences.
Anyway enough of that

In the mean time of all this happening i joined a dating website called 'Tinder' after a couple of weeks i realised it was not for me and shut it down, but while i was on there i had been chatting to a police officer and i gave him my number. We had text a few times but nothing major.
Anyway a few weeks later he sent me a few messages and i started to really like him. I am not the type of girl who just has boyfriend after boyfriend etc and when i do like someone i really like them lol.
Anyway we have been talking for about 3 months now and we have met up twice, we meet up about 3/4 weeks ago and have spoken on the phone every day since. I really do like this guy and i know he is good for me. I live in the country and he lives in the town so we are not on each others doorsteps which is nice. he knows everything that went on with my ex and he knows i have a baby and still seems interested.
He is 36 and he knows i am 22 (i do prefer dating older guys because i want someone serious and now i have a baby i want someone who is not going to mess me around)
but anyway when we facetime and meet in person he is always so flirty with me and makes it clear he likes me, he has made comments about when we sleep together (if that will ever happen lol) as i have made it clear to him i will not sleep with just anyone and i have a minuim of a 4/5 date rule (although i really do like him i prob would sleep with him loool)
So basically i need advice on....i feel like it is always me making the contact on texting etc. and i just don't know where i stand with him. he knows i really like him, i am almost sure of it.
Yesterday i was out all day and he sent a couple of texts back and forth he called me in the afternoon but i was driving so he told me to call him in the evening which i did and he never answered, i kept seeing him going on and off like on whats app and skype, so i sent him a text message something along the lines of 'hey Mr. i tried retuning your call' and he deffo saw it and i never had a reply. he was online until late into the night.
I dont have him on facebook but i did some major internet stalking last night lol, i found his profile page and there doesnt seem to be any girls or contact of girls on there.
i know i seem like a really over obsessive freak right now but i just want to know where i stand, because i have a child and i do really like him i don't want to be messed around. I have not contacted him since last night and it is now the afternoon and i don't think i will bother sending anymore messages until he gets in touch.
Should i try to call him tonight?
what shall i do? i don't want to come across as over obsessive i just cant be bothered with these games! Like i said he seems to really like me he even once mentioned about moving in (he was probs joking) but still you wouldn't say that if you did not like someone right?
helpppppp
Emily x

[0089xx]

First things first - I feel as though you are still very fragile at the moment, in terms of splitting up with your ex etc.
I totally think you should stop over thinking and simply 'play it cool'. Perhaps you should wait on him to message or call you first, you don't want to give off the obsessive or desperate impression; think of it this way - you are such a strong, powerful woman. You don't need a guy to make you happy, your daughter is your priority - a relationship is just a bonus.

[dj]

I agree with 0089x. You are still very vulnerable. Focus on your daughter and being happy. Love will follow. Guys like confident women who are capable of taking care of themselves. You definitely do not want to come across and obsessive or needy. Let him call you and try not to worry about it so much.

[Casey Vidgen]

I stopped using tinder a few weeks ago… too many douches for my liking lol. My coworker showed me cliqie.com and I’m a big fan of that over the others in terms of actually meeting people vs. just entertainment. It has a different approach that feels less sketchy cause you and your friends essentially act as “wingmen”. I like that it helps you find things to do too. Skout’s okay too, but still has it’s fair share of creepers