Concerned about my ex-girlfriend's behavior?

[MIApac]

I broke up with my ex about 2 months ago and while at times we've tried to get each other back, she almost immediately jumped into a new relationship, while I'm not really looking to be in one right now. Instead, I've been busy trying new things, making new friends and occassionaly dating.

Recently, a mutual friend of ours has reached out to me about some concerns they've had about her. She saw her with her new boyfriend that they did not even look like were that serious or affectionate towards each other. My friend also told me that my ex-girlfriend had gained some weight and had this look of sadness in her eyes but when asked she told her that everything was fine and she was madly in love with her new boyfriend, despite only being together for a little over a month.

I've also heard a few other things which kind of surprised me. I heard that she was no longer on speaking terms with a few of her closest friends, including her best friend. It is believed that some have told her that they felt uncomfortable seeing her with this new guy after seeing us together and that she was rushing into this relationship. She accused them of not being supportive of her and distanced herself from them and started spending more time with her new boyfriend, his friends and remaining friends who are too afraid to speak up.

I was also told that she's trying change him to be more like me and do the some of the same things that we used to do when we were together. We always used to go out to dinner or do things in the city, while this guy is simply happy going to the park and playing frisbee with his dog or his friends and staying home and reading.

Since I've heard about this, I've made a few attempts to contact her, out of concern and to find out what's going on with her. But while she was more than willing to be friends and talk to me when she first starting seeing this guy and gloat about her how much more in common she had with her new boyfriend and how he treated her better than I ever did. Now, she won't even reply to any of my texts or emails.

Instead, I've been told that she looks at my Facebook page semi-regularly and I noticed that she looked at a profile I had on an online dating website, that she was also a member of. I've been told that while she was happy to see that I wasn't in a relationship, like her, she did get a little jealous when she saw pictures of me with some of my new friends or comments from people that said I looked great.

While I feel for some of her friends, I don't think there's much I can do if she won't talk to me. Why would she be acting like this?

[Zelda Addfwyn]

Because she still has feelings for you but hates the fact that you dumped her. So she's trying to force this new relationship to work to try to spite you and show you that someone other than you is capable of loving her. The dumping her friends thing just sounds immature. What they did is what they're supposed to do, so she just sees them as standing in the way of her goal which is to make you jealous and feel some of the hurt she felt.

The spying on you and getting jealous seeing you with new friends is because she knows that while she had a slight advantange when she started seeing someone else, now the tide had shifted since you've now moved on and things have been going well while her relationship isn't going that great.

[livelyowl287]

She's jelaous of you. She wants to get back together but knows youre moving on.

so shes forcing this new relationship to work.