What The Hell Does My Ex Want?

[Tony]

Basically long story short, about a month I broke up with my GF of nearly two years. It was never a good relationship in anyway and I realise now I was probably being abused to some extent (emotionally). She made a HUGE scene, making me feel terrible with her crying, telling me I was the only one helping her and so on. Then it turned into that she was going to tell everybody my secrets. Then I didn't really speak to her so I don't know what she done.

Anyways in that time I literally have no idea what the hell she wants from me. The current facts are:

1) She is currently in a rebound relationship with somebody she met like a week after I broke up with her. She's not exactly kept it a secret either, telling me pretty much outright.

2) She's gone downhill, smoking and **** as well as looking er.... awful,.

3) For a while she wanted to talk and act like we were friendly or something. Yet not friends so I didn;t get it at all. I tried to be friends to help her with therapy and she threw that back in my face.

4) She makes it known pretty publicly that she;s out with this new person. As in announcing loudly several times, "I better make it to the West End to meet my friend" very loudly.

5) She blocked me on Facebook, then suddenly today changed her mind for reasons unknown today. Can anybody explain this?

6) This is the biggie, she still has pics of me on Facebook. Not with others either sometimes by myself which I find weird. I've pretty much made private/deleted photos of her on my profile. I mean her new flame can clearly see these pics as well when surely you'd delete them now? Is this not terribly awkward?

Anybody have any advice based on what I said and what she wants from me?

[blackgrumpycat]

It doesn't matter what she wants. You broke up with her and now what she does is none of your business and likewise, what you do is none of hers. Block her on facebook and move on. There is no need to try to be friends. Just cut all ties and don't snoop on her to see what she is up to. It only matters what she wants if you want to try again.

[Scotty]

She wants a phone number. The loony Farm called and they want her to come back.

[Pamela]

She is your ex,why are you bothering with her at all?cut all contact,forget about facebook,you people put your lives out there for everyone to see,that's your fault now,but do not talk to, or contact her at all.

[john]

he's a creep

[Kelli]

Who knows what she's thinking? Probably just wants to be controlling because she's very messed up and insecure on the inside. I would just stay away from her as best you can.

[Alan]

1. I don't know what to say
2. Good for her, she made this decision
3. That was her decision, not sure why she woudl do this
4. That was her choice
5. She wants to know what your doing and who you are dating so she could feel jealous of your new gf and screw your relationship with your new gf
6. Not sure but I have a feeling she has feelings for you in some way.

Block her on facebook if you don't like her. Keep her out of your life and move forward, you'll find better girls than her.


****apparently john above didn't read the question and stated "He's a creep." Well John the guy is asking the question about his EX-girl....so he means to say "She's a creep."

[Rojina Aktar]

She basically is not over you-and this so-called "rebound" relationship has only come about in a vain attempt to make you jealous or frustrated by rubbing your nose in it. This is borderline obsession. It seems to me as though she is hellbent on exacting some form of "petty revenge". You DID mention that you more or less suffered emotional abuse at her hands-and by all accounts it's still going on.

I suggest that that you block her on facebook,twitter etc., block her email(s) or change your account,block her number,and distance yourself from mutual friends. The less you see or hear of her the better it will become in the long-run.



Good luck!