Feeling so alone and socially abandoned after baby?

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I have an eight month old daughter and I'm a stay at home mom. She's extremely hard willed and is a lot to handle. I'm starting to get used to being able to cope with her personality. My spouse works a full time job, and I'm so lucky he supports us without any complaints. But I feel like I don't have any access to the outside world anymore. I don't have any friends (well, I do but I'm always the one to initiate getting together and frankly I feel like if they don't EVER ask me to come over or join them like maybe they just don't want to be friends with me) and everytime I get out of the house my daughter is such a handful that I can't enjoy being out, it's always such a hard task to do anything. My husband comes home from work and will not tell me anything about his day. Nothing. It's like pulling teeth to get him to talk to me about his job. But on his fb he's tagged in funny pictures of him and his coworkers joking around. I just want to feel included and I miss any kind of conversation between adults. I always feel so left out of everything, and unimportant. My husband has been giving me a lot of flack BC I get really offended when people don't like my photos on fb or when I say I get zero notifications anymore. He's says I'm too caught up with fb and he can't stand it. But that's the only way I'm connected to the outside world socially. I feel so alone and I don't understand why I'm so outcast. Anyone else feel this way?

[Bobbi]

Get out with some mom's groups in your area.
I know you dilemma. We lived in a town for a couple of years, I tried going to groups and such. and no one would call me back. It's odd. But sometimes you just have to keep trying and keep reaching out.

[Sophie]

I'm not a fan of social media.
Men won't ever have a discussion about their days like women will.

Having a child can be very isolating. It's a ton of work and when your'e tired, you get cranky.

Arrange play dates with other moms.....of course there will be no real play and they will be very short, but at least you can get out of the house.
Join a mother's group with a church or just put it out there to start one. We went from house to house. Once a month we had a mom's only wine and cheese.
Have your husband look after his child once a week so you can get out with your non-babied friends.

[LINDA R]

Welcome to motherhood. I was also a stay-at-home mom....but I enjoyed every minute of it....with all 3 of my kids. I kept busy, even with the first one, and was never bored. From the day each was born....I read to them and began their education.
Search around where you live and find out if there are any 'play parks'.......your child can play with other kids and you can sit and chat with other mothers and build friendships.