Cheating on my boyfriend?

[499]

So I don't really have a specific question, more just opinions, BUT I'm not looking for just a "dump your boyfriend you cruel whore" kind of answer either!

At the moment its a stressful time for both my boyfriend and I, we've never really had any problems, we still don't have problems between us but it has only been 8/9 months. We're a good match, and are good friends as well as romantic partners which I really like about our relationships. Sometimes it can fall a little flat, but usually we are always really good together.
I have always been quite a ..sexually motivated person, I'm not a whore nor have I ever acted like one or have a reputation.. but sex is important to me and if I find someone attracted I can be really turned on my them..enjoy flirting with them..like to feel as if they are attracted me/it's mutual, but I never act upon it, and I know that they might be attractive but that my boyfriend is too, moreso and I love him. The sex with my boyfriend is also good, so there's nothing really wrong with our relationship.
I've started going to the gym, for about 5 months, within the past month I have been flirting intensely with one of the staff there because we get on very well, have good rapport, and it has been subtly established that we find eachother sexually attractive. We haven't swapped numbers, we're not on facebook, we only ever briefly DM eachother on twitter. Just yesterday our flirting peaked, which ended up cheating on both our partners in the spa lounge at the very end of the late shift, no one was around, no customers nor staff, because it is quite a small gym. He drove me home, he is 24 and I am 17, and no I find no noticeable age gap at all, we get on as if we're the same age and its great. But when he drove me home he asked for a kiss, a nice peck on the lips not a dirty great snog, which although I did like, I found a bit strange .. that kind of kiss after what we just did? Like we're dating or something. It will definitely happen again, I know so because of how uncontrollably sexual I am (yes embarassing to admit), and I gym everyday without fail so... but the weirdest thing, I expected to feel terrible.. in fact I don't, I feel satisfied. Why is this? I feel like I still love my boyfriend, and even though he satisfies me sexually, this new guy was really refreshing and I look forward to it ..

I know I'll get a lot of evil responses for this, and yeah obviously what I'm doing is wrong, but I just want your opinions on what I should do/why I feel like this/etc

[Megan]

I think you're just not ready to be in a committed relationship with someone. Even though you love your boyfriend, you're still young and at the point where you're sexually or romantically interested in other men at the same time. That's normal, that's okay. What's not okay is that your boyfriend has different expectations. And if your expectations don't match, then you will most likely break up eventually.

You really only have two options. Tell your boyfriend, or continue you what you're doing and don't say a word. You know what the right choice is, I'm sure. I hope you pick that one. It's only fair to your boyfriend.

[M.B.]

Firstly I don't think you should be in a relationship.
You should just be dating.

Dating = having a couple of lovers and experiencing different things
Relationship = exclusive to one person

You should drop your current boyfriend before snogging the gym guy.
I've always told my loves that if I get tired of you I'm just gonna tell you it's done before I cheat.

[zantara]

I don't think your a cruel whore or anything like that it's just you are very confused and you should ask yourself this question: do you really like this guy more than just sex? If yes then you should do yourself and your boyfriend a favor: break up because I know I wouldn't like it if my boyfriend had sex with someone and kept doing it so if u wanna date this guy or just have sex then please break up with ur bf it's the right thing to do.

[Eric L]

I hate disgraceful ppl like you. with a passion