My BF wont add me to his FB or even post pics of us?

[893]

We've been together for a little over a year. He introduces me to his guy friends but not the girls. Early in the relationship he would hang out with two girl coworkers behind my back but I found out because I spied on him. I confronted him and then he got angry too because I went through his phone and saw what he did. So now he says hes not adding me bec he doesn't trust me. Other excuses he gives is that hes not ready to add me but we're roommates. He says he doesn't want everyone to know his business or that he wants to keep FB and me separate. I think hes not adding me bec he wants other girls to think hes single. I also found that he was messaging girls on FB and emailing girls from craigslist but when I brought that up he said he would never do it again and begged me not to leave him. Idk I don't trust him. Why do u guys think he doesn't add me or posts pics of us?
Ive already confronted him about it many times and he tells me to stop asking and when i keep asking he says he wants to add me less. he says im controlling but i think a bf who loves their gf wouldve added her a long time ago. Idk im staying with him because he says he'll change and add me eventually.
I know we're not good for each other but I don't know how to end it. I've tried at least over 20 times but he says he'll change and that he wants to try so I cave. Im getting tired of trying and I don't think he really is trying to change. I just would feel guilty for leaving him. Plus we live together so it seems harder. And hes in a bad place right now with his job situation and he seems depressed. I wouldn't want to add to that stress. I care about him even though hes done so many bad things. I do think he loves me but maybe not enough bec if he did he would treat me better.

[klze]

Wow! He is so shady. You gotta leave his ass. No man who is sincere would treat his gf like that.

[Welcome]

I thinks he's cheating but I could be wrong. You should make a fake fb profile and put a pic of a hot girl as your profile pic and flirt with him see I he flirts back. My friend did that to her bf.

[con the fruiterer]

Wow a new contender world's biggest super snoop. why are you even with him if you feel this way?

[James]

He sounds like a dick. Confront him about your problems, and if he doesn't do anything then dump him.

[Sasha]

Um. Obviously u already know u cant trust him. Why are u even asking?

[JFR]

If your BF loves you he will add you. But it is best to leave him since that kind of attitude is worst. I also think your BF is a PLAYBOY.

[Fred Mandel]

Trust is big thing in any relationship/friendship.

If you can't trust someone than your relationship isn't going to last.

There may well be nothing to him hanging out with female co-workers but men are sneaky and sometimes cannot be trusted and yes women can be the same, it's part of human nature. I don't think it helped the situation by going through his phone as my wife did the same to me but for different reasons, but he shouldn't get defensive or angry if there's nothing for him to hide. It sounds like there's been a trust issue early on. Be honest and open with him , tell him how you feel. If you don't trust eachother than you aren't going to have a very nice time together as you'll always be worrying what he's up to when you're not together

It could be nothing but I smell something fishy.

I personally would talk to him and ask him to be honest with you why he does all this because to me it sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it which means he wants you and a bit on the side as well. Any decent caring person would not be this sneaky ans secretive and it sounds like a recipe for heartache and pain. If he doesn't give you the EXACT reasons why and not just some bull about wanting to keep you a FB separate and not wanting everybody knowing his bizness then why is he on FB in the first place!?!? I don't like facebook for many reasons. It's not all bad but has from my experience cause a lot of trouble but I guess that's not FB itself it's people who are on it.

Ask him why he's on FB if he wants to keep his life and business private?

Sounds like he's just telling you what you want to hear when he said he'll add you eventually.

Let's say for example that you hate porn but he likes it and has been looking at it even though he knows you hate it and say for example you need to use a laptop/pc and you ask to use his but because he's been doing something he knows is wrong he acts all edgy , cagey and evasive because he's been doing something he knows he shouldn't and doesn't want you to find out.

It's a classic sign that when a person does this they are hiding something because they it's wrong and if it wasn't so then they would have absolutely no reason to deny you because they would be nothing for them to hide but it sounds like he's got something to hide.

This probably isn't easy for you and I wish you the best of luck but remember that if he ain't totally honest with you then he's probably never gonna change and if you stay with him you'll just be wasting time that could be spent doing much more worthwile things like getting a new fella that worships the ground you walk on and respects your feelings and who you are.

You deserve better than this and i'm sure there are plenty of guys out there who will treat you better than this you just sometimes have to wait to find that special someone.

Keep searching and eventually amongst all the pain and dirt that is life you will find that diamond in the rough.

I hope one day you'll find your prince charming and when you do it'll feel like a knight in shining amour has swept you off your feet.

It took me a while to find my soulmate but when I did it felt like my life had just begun. We have had many goodtimes together and I (eventually!) got the courage to ask her to marry me and when she replied with no hesitation my heart wanted to burst with indescribeable joy.

Brand new wife
Brand new life

Go get 'em Girl !