Would it be overly harsh to block this clingy guy?

[Jackie]

I just started a Zoosk profile, and I've been getting messages from several guys. I've been talking to them all, and one in particular is kind of getting clingy and annoying.

He seems like a very sweet guy, but his behavior is almost stalker-like. He's Indian, and this has been my experience with Indian guys who grew up in India and then moved to the US for school - they generally get very attached very quickly for no real reason, and are talking about marriage within the first conversation (I'm not racist - my parents are Indian and I grew up in the US). We had a few minutes of uninteresting small talk, and he talked about how he really wants to meet me. He lives 300 miles away and is talking about traveling here.

He asked for my phone number the first conversation, and I naively gave it - big mistake. I also gave him my facebook profile URL, and saw that he was not the same person in his Zoosk profile picture - he is a nice-looking, but short and skinny guy, while the picture on his Zoosk profile is some Indian athlete or male model. That was two days ago, and he has now called me three times (I didn't pick up). He has messaged me multiple times on both Facebook and Zoosk and asked if we could talk. He will first say "hi" and then again "hi" an hour later, followed by "are u there?" after 30 minutes, and "can we talk" after another hour. Earlier today, he asked if we could meet for Valentine's Day - I have never had a date on Valentine's Day and really wanted one this year (I'm 29), but with someone I really like. This guy I mostly just feel sorry for.

Now, I see on Facebook that he has sent me a request to be his girlfriend, so everyone would see that I am "In a Relationship with **** ****". I feel for the guy, I really do, but I've never been in a serious relationship with anyone before to the point where I wanted to declare it on Facebook, and I always figured that when it finally happened, it would be with someone who was really right for me.

It's getting to the point where I really want to block him on both Zoosk and Facebook - his constant messages are a nuisance, and to be honest I'm a little creeped out. But it seems like he's really attached and possibly unstable, and I don't want to be hurtful.

What should I do?
@Steve - no, this is a different guy. Yeah, I'm getting messaged by some real winners on Zoosk, lol.

[Jessica]

No. Block.

[Lemon]

Good grief. I would block immediately.

[pearl]

Block him. Now.

Being too "nice" is a mistake when someone is deliberately invading your boundaries. It can only get worse.

Be more careful about giving out personal details to people you dont know.

[Steve]

Isn't this the married guy who lived 200 miles away and his wife was in india.

You should get in his car and enjoy the rape!

Umm yes block him

[Paradise]

Yes, I also had that problem with Indian males. They are creepy. I act nice to everyone, but some guys take it the wrong way lol.

[Rhodanthe]

Block. He sounds annoying. Why you even consider putting up with it I dont know. You are far kinder than I. I would not only block but before I block tell him "You annoy me. Adios!"

[Bianca]

Wow, he wants you to publicly declare him as your boyfriend? After a little bit of small talk, and you actually ignoring him online for two days, when you've never even met in person? Just...wow.

You should tell him that you've met someone and have a boyfriend now, so you are no longer interested in meeting him. Then, delete and block him on Facebook, and block him on Zoosk too. And in the future do not friend anyone on Facebook just because they ask you to - I've heard of people friending people they've only known online, but that's when they've really struck up a conversation and think they can really be friends - not some random guy from a dating site who is giving you the creeps from the get-go. If they want to add you right away like he did, tell them you aren't comfortable giving them your facebook information and phone number so quickly. If the guy has a problem with that, he's not someone you should be talking to anyway. I would actually say you don't even owe him an explanation - just block him, but then he still has your phone number and would likely keep calling and texting. Hopefully he respects your decision to cut contact with him and stops calling you - if he doesn't, you may need to call your phone company and block his number. Whatever you do, do NOT give him your address or any more personal information.

NEVER give out your phone number unless you actually want to. It's an invitation for harassment, which you are finding out now.

You don't necessarily need to delete your Zoosk profile, just block this one guy - you did pay for it after all, I'm assuming. And you might meet someone actually worth dating on there - just be more careful from now on. Don't give your personal information unless YOU really want to give it - it doesn't sound like you really wanted to give this guy your phone number or Facebook URL, you just did because he asked you to. It's okay to say no, or "not until we know each other better." If you keep the relationship on Zoosk, if he starts to creep you out, all you need to do is block him and you're done. Once you give him your personal details, it will be harder to get rid of him - so don't do it from now on until you want to.

[unknown]

Are you sure he's just trolling with you?

[Werbie]

No, do it