My boyfriend thinks I am wrong. HELP!?

[Ravynne]

My boyfriend doesn't spend much time with me, he would rather play his video games in the three years that we have been together. I would talk to him countless times and he would listen for a few days then go back to the way he always was. A while back I caught my boyfriend sexually messaging a girl and wouldn't spend any time with me. He would spend all his time on his cellphone texting this girl and he would lock his cellphone and never let me on his facebook. He would also hang out with her without being there when I was completely trusting. I moved out for a couple of weeks. I finally forgive him (kind of) since he never actually went out and did anything physically. After that, he had a couple of girl friends but I didn't mind because he didn't give me reason to think foul play. Now, he just started working and he started making friends with this girl. He suddenly asked if he could walk this girl home at 9 at night. I said no because soon after he started changing his facebook passwords and he started locking his phone. When I asked about his phone passcode he gave it to me after a fight and soon after started carrying it on him 24/7 in his pocket, even when he was asleep. I asked to see his facebook messages but lied saying there were none when I seen he had just messaged her through his yahoo. We had a long fight and he finally showed me and he was making fun of me and talking bad about me. I had a long talk with him and he looked like he understood and promised to change or I would walk out on him. We are soon bound to move to a different state. I didn't mind him going to his cousin's house last night and he stayed up all night. This morning he woke up at 6:30 when she asked to go with him. He has NEVER woken up for me at 6:30, I get yelled at. This morning he called me to ask if he could go hang out with this chick. I told him no because I wanted him to show me that he put me first and that he would not put me on the sidelines like he has so many other times and because I wanted to meet her first. He fought me and I told him he was hurting me and if he went we were over. He can not go, have his fun, come home tell me how sorry he is and everything would be okay. I am tired of this cycle. He still went and spent the whole day with her. He has been going out of his way to respect his privacy and be nice to her when he has been anything but with me. I wanted to him to be there with me because my mom has been in the hospital with her leg just amputated but he didn't bother to be there for me, instead he wanted to be there for her. He spent the whole day with her and claims he loves me so much but couldn't bother to message me or comfort me, instead he told his mom he is tired of my "whining" (which is just me explaining my feelings) to get him to do what I want. I have been so patient for him to change and put me first and I wanted him to choose to be with me. He planned to spend the whole day with his cousin, yet, this girl calls him and he jumps at her beck and call. I wanted proof that he would change but he chose her over me. I don't know how he can make me feel better. I think we are over. I am so hurt

[Alice]

You are right, it was over a long time ago. Move on with your life and don't look back. You are much better off without him.

[Casey]

he sounds like a total douche bag. Dump his sorry butt

[Dian]

And U R still there for what reason ???? Girlfriend, what's wrong with U !!!!! If U R not moving out tomorrow, please seek professional help !!!!

[862]

I know this may seem painful and so hard especially after being with him for so long but girl you deserve so much better! Have some respect for yourself girl! I'm sure he has tons of good qualities but just think of how he's making you feel... You deserve so much better! The best of luck to you!

[Navi]

This guy is still a kid. You are too for pursuing him the way you are. Set that sucker free and dont look back. You owe it to yourself as a matter of self respect.

Time to focus on you now.
All this time you might have forgoten how to do that.
Find some work or volunteer work, focus on your health by eating right, exercise, enjoy some free time going on hikes, bike riding, dance, anything that floats your boat. Check out your library see what interests you. Take a college course or vacational school.

Hang out with friends to get your mind off of things. Check out other people have fun enjoy yourself talk things out move on.