13 year old bi/lesbian?

[089]

Okay.. This might be a bit long but please read and help me?

I liked girls for the longest time ever! At 9 I wrote it in my diary that I liked them and my mom read it and yelled at me and beat me fore it.. After that I kept quiet and kept things too myself.
She said it was wrong for me too like girls because I am a girl too but... I like them... I like boys to just not as much..
I met a girl on instagram she's 14 and now we're in a long distance relationship (For 5 months!) And my mom don't know about it.. Nobody in my family does..
I feel awkward because My younger sister makes jokes about me being bisexual or a lesbian I just sorta laugh at it or pretend I didn't hear her.. I want my family too accept me... I feel a bit left out and it SUCKS!

I like boys their attractive I'm not attractive to them sexually though.. Never have been.. Only girls..

I'm scared and I don't know what too do! My mom said that when I was younger I always liked hanging out with girl more then boys.. I hated boys A LOT

All I'm asking is:

Am I a lesbian?

How do I get my family too accept me?

I'm scared and I don't know what too do..

I been thinking about it a lot lately..
I have nothing against LGBT people


I have a aunt she said she wouldn't care if someone liked the same gender and that if they like the same gender it's okay it made me happy... But I'm still scared too tell anyone that I like girls..


Help me figure out how too tell me family and not be afraid..

[Val]

If you're not interested in boys, then you're a lesbian. Gay/lesbians can find people of the opposite gender attractive and not be attracted to them.

About your family, since your mother is homophobic, I suggest you keep it to yourself until you're old enough to be open about it without her being able to hurt you. If she can't love you for who you are, then you really shouldn't sweat it with her. What's important above everything is that YOU are happy and live however you want. Don't let her get you down and don't listen to her homophobic crap.

[Nick Davidxoxo]

Awww dear. Don't be sad. I know being gay has a lot of downsides to it, but it sounds like it's best for you to stay in the closet for now. Keep your cute little relationship up too. It's adorable❤️
Do your parents realize you're gay? I believe if you aren't sexually attracted to a certain gender, then you aren't that orientation. So in your case, I believe you're 100% gay. I think girls are attractive and I'm 100% sexually attracted to guys. Always and forever will be❤️
So listen dear. I think once you finally accept yourself (if you haven't already), let a trusted friend, or that trusted aunt you mentioned, know that you're gay. Just tell them. Don't hold back and be serious about it. Texting is easier with friends but I'd say it in person with family. Life will come together dear. It may seem like things might fall apart but I think you'll be okay. You sound like a sweet little girl. Keep going and remember, stay fabulous' ❤️

[Generic]

Believe me when I say that I understand how it feels to live in a home where your family doesn't fully accept who you are, and please let me say that I'm sorry that you have to live with that.

I am not going to tell you how you feel or what you think, but I am going to tell you that you are only 13. You might not be as attracted toward guys now, but don't rule out the possibility that it could happen, don't be so quick to label yourself with a sexual identity or preference. But ultimately, you are what you decide to be, if right now you decide to be lesbian then go for it! And nothing is holding you back from changing that around later, so have fun with what you feel like now!

As far as telling your family is concerned, sometimes you have to just not care what your family thinks. What you feel is right is right for you, and they aren't you, so you don't have to be them. Now, they are your family, you live under your parents roof and they provide for you. So if they set rules, you have to follow them, that's just how it goes and it sucks and I'm sorry, but they also can't decide whether not you're gay or bi or straight or whatever! So I suggest just telling them, and saying that you can't help it. And having them persecute you for it is like having someone persecuted simply because they like watermelon more than grape. You prefer girls over guys, not big deal, and tell them that if they are bad to you about it, it will just make things bad between you and them, but it won't change what you prefer, it will just make you want it more because you can't have it... Trust me, I know...

[Josh]

this may be already said, so im just gona make it short and sweet for you. whether your bi/lesbian/strait ect. your parents will always dislike you being in a romantic relationship with anyone for the fact that your thirteen. id wait till atleast fifteen to be in any sort of romantic relationship or if you honestly cant wait, atleast dont talk to your parents about it till your 15. your still a teenager, still dealing with hormones and puberty. plus still dealing with having to be controled by your parents and having to go through school. just be a kid have fun and dont worry about this sort of stuf till your older. a romantic relationship doesnt even realy exist at your age anyway. yes you may feel special twards a person but the most you would do is hold hands or kiss. you already have so many other things to worry about, it would be best to just put this on hold, atleast for a while. anyways goodluck with whatever you decide to do

[Naomi]

Honey, I was in the same position as you when I was around your age. At first, I thought I was bi, which I was okay with. Then I figured out I was a lesbian, and I thought that would be the end of the world. I was always crying because I thought everyone would hate me if I only liked girls. My mom was constantly saying homophobic things, and I thought she would kick me out. But a few years later, she figured it out. So did my dad, who was homophobic as well. They both say that they love me no matter what. I think my mom loves me even more now.
The point is that things aren't always like they seem. Sometimes things seem worse than they are. Maybe your parents won't accept you at first, but they're your parents; they'll come around eventually. Also, it's okay to take some time to figure out your sexuality. You don't owe it to anyone (not even yourself) to have a definite label right away, or ever.
And word of advice, if you're going to come out, I'd do so to your aunt first. The first time you come out is scary and nerve-wrecking, and it's great to have a lot of support and encouragement
Good luck to you, I hope you find happiness wherever you go