MEN: Are you actually intimidated by tall, pretty women?

[princess]

I'm 21 and men literally never approach me. It seems like all my female friends get so much male attention - men constantly approaching them, talking to them on Facebook, texting, etc. I have zero. I've been single for over a year, and have only had 2 boyfriends in my life. I'm starting to get pretty lonely :/

People tell me all the time how supposedly pretty I am. My family are all hounding me to get into modeling. My dad is adopted and we recently found his birth family and had this huge reunion. Everyone I met commented on how beautiful I was, as if they were truly stunned. My sister is (in my opinion) very pretty but they didn't say the same things to her. I've had random women randomly tell me I'm "so pretty". I'm also 5'9, thin (size 4-6), and I'm really into fashion so I always look stylish, feminine, and put together. I'm in college and have this married professor who checks me out all the time and looks for excuses to see me, and I'm pretty sure he's got a little thing for me. But actual students and guys my age don't show the slightest interest. I'm pretty bright (A student, honors), and I never party or sleep around. I'm pretty shy and quiet but very nice, polite, and friendly to anyone I talk to. I also take care of my elderly grandma, love animals, and am studying to be a physicians assistant so I'd like to think I'm a pretty caring person.

I don't understand why no men are interested in me. I mean they don't even talk to me. For example, a few weeks ago I was talking to a girl friend in class and a guy came and sat by us and started talking to us. He pretty much acted like I wasn't even there and just talked to the other girl and he also seemed really nervous, I assumed he liked this other girl. But then yesterday I was sitting in the hall and saw him keep walking past me until finally he walked over to sit down by me. he had headphones in but when I saw him I smiled and said hey and he said hi and sat down. We talked about class until a guy he knew walked over and then they started talking and he just got up and walked away with him. So it's like no matter what I do I can't get a man lol

What is wrong?! Are guys really just intimidated, and are they really that intimidated of a tall girl? Or am I just a dog or something?

This is me btw: http://s949.photobucket.com/user/meantam...ort=3&o=17

[Hidden247]

well.. by tha video yea ur beautiful but sometimes men are a bit intimidated by a female taller then them i dont exactly know alot about ur life so i cant exactly help(other then the info provided) but honestly if u want to talk to more men then i just suggest u talk to them.. but thats what i think

[Robert]

Your a dog

[Gisele]

Yes you are a very pretty girl, but in my opinion, 5' 9" is not tall. Over 6' would be considered tall for a woman.
I am particularly attracted to tall women and find them generally to be very beautiful.
So, my advice to you is to develop your own self-confidence. You are probably giving out a negative vibe to the guys you like, because you have convinced yourself that you are tall and therefore intimidating them. You have a lot to offer any guy if you start believing in yourself.

[no1knowsaboutit]

Yes, some are. I'm 5'11" size 7/8. Always well put togetherand love to wear 5" heels. Shy and insecure guys have a harder time talking to us. Try wearing a red top (attracts guys) or dress. Compliment guys. Make sure your body language is open. When you talk, have your palms up, exposing you wrists. Subconsciously, it tells guys you're open to conversation.

Most guys like small women because they feel a need to protect them. Instinct.

[anonymous]

nope, I intimidate them

[Gareth]

You are very pretty, certainly not a dog but a beautiful young woman. But I think you already knew that.

You are on the tall side, assuming the average is somewhere around 5'5" or 5'6", but that's another plus. Tall girls have longer legs and usually look proportionately slimmer.

It doesn't sound like your problem is with your personality or attitude either, you seem like a really nice girl. The only thing left then, is Perfection Syndrome.

Don't Google it, I just made it up. I needed a term for when a guy meets a girl who's just perfect in every way. To her, she's just a normal person but to him she's a straight A student with model quality looks and a sweet, caring, fun personality.

The questions then are: it's such a girl likely to be single? And if so, would she go out with an ordinary guy like me? The answer to both is 'probably not'. So he'll never make a move because she's a far off dream.

You have to be assertive. Tell a guy that you like him and he'll find his courage.

[Barolb]

Read completely before you throw a thumbs down (or even a thumbs up).


"Only had two boyfriends"? I would like to note that while attention can be both good and bad things, the idea of having a partner as a mantel is kind of stupid. Only having 2 is much more than many people get in their lives. Some people, like myself, have never had a girlfriend before (or in other girls' cases a boyfriend). While there is nothing wrong with being shallow on some things, i am mostly against the idea of being around shallow girls as those were the kind of girls i was surrounded by in high school. The fake smiles, the tone in their voice that was completely unnatural and the horrible pretending to be nice... Thankfully i have not encountered this nearly as much in university.

As for the matter at hand, while i do think you come off as being a bit shallow in your first paragraph, being lonely is understandable. Everyone encounters this at some point, and as to how you fill this void is up to you. You can hang around with friends more or something, but i suppose this isn't what you're looking for so i'll give my take.

Yes, i would be slightly intimidated by taller women than myself. I am exactly 6ft tall, so not often will i see girls who are taller than me, especially because of the people i hang around. I'm pretty sure this intimidation is due to being around girls who were always shorter than me. However, girls who are just as tall as me i would be fine with. Out of my group of friends i'm not the tallest, but maybe in the middle to near (3/4 ways) tallest in terms of height.

This brings me to what I can say about you based off of several facts that really don't tell anyone anything about you. First off, and the most obvious being, you are an attractive girl. I believe that is well spoken for at this point, and not just from your emphasis on personal experiences (mainly because i'm fairly certain other guys will agree with me on this: You are indeed attractive). Secondly, you do brag a bit. When something good happens you like to show or talk about it with others, which is not a bad thing. Thirdly, you develop low confidence in some aspects of life, but have high confidence and aspirations in others which you excel at. And lastly, you're eager and you feel the need to keep up with your appearance. This includes social standing as well.

I cannot state that you are a "very nice" person; I never once spoken to you before, so how can i say that for certain. Are you intelligent? I once thought grades truly showcased that a person was intelligent, but i've begun to see otherwise. People excel at different things, and grades aren't always a proper indicator of one's intelligence or knowledge. Rather, grades are a proper indicator of how much you care about an object of interest or how much you would push forward to reach a goal. I don't know if you're shy or not, as that is quite clearly not what this post implies. You posted a question about yourself and a small video included, to the Internet, to reaffirm your confidence because you feel like things aren't going as how you would expect them to. I can also tell from this post that you feel negative and slightly bitter about yourself as a result of disinterest in guys towards you.

Some of the things you have noted in your post can be observed in your writing. That is clearly what i did above. Nobody can say or write so clearly why you and other guys can't connect. There could be many different variables not accounted for (eg. group of friends, classes taken together, if a guy wants to have a gilrfriend, etc). You stated you're studying to be a physician's assistant, correct? What if there are guys in your class whose main focus IS to become a physician or have some sort of career in that particular field? I know of such people who do not want to get into a relationship right now. They want to focus on finishing school.

As for that guy who spoke to your friend: Sometimes it's awkward when a guy talks to a friend of the girl he likes. Sometimes some guys completely turn off on speaking to them when they talk to someone who is closer to them. They aren't sure what to say or do. I can speak from experience on this especially. This even happens to me when i talk to anyone. Trying to still incorporate them into the conversation can be difficult though, and the best i have done thus far is to just look at them, other friends and switch back and forth while speaking.


I could suggest as many things as i possibly can to try and better your situation, but who says it will help with generalized, predetermined, variables? Situations are handled differently by different people. The advice provided to you may or may not work and as someone is is an Internet dweller cannot possibly know your situation. You, your friends and family know your situation better than someone such as i or anyone else does. I'm sure there are people who care about you who would be willing to lend a proper hand. This is as much as i can do.


Good luck on getting around the hurdle and i hope this answers your question,
~Barolb