Should I tell my sister about her daughter's instagram?

[619]

Alright. My sister went through some rough times in high school, and ended up pregnant. They stayed together for 8 years, then her husband left without a trace, never to talk to her, or their daughter, Serena for a very long time. Serena didn't see her dad again until she was 13, but by then she really didn't care or want to see him. She spent years wanting to see him, and still wrote him letters almost every day

My sister was never home very much due to her job, and Serena spent most of her childhood with her grandparents. She used to get bullied in school really badly, and was molested by her doctor when she was 10.

Serena is 14 now, in 8th grade.

I recently got an instagram, and checked if Serena had one. She did. I clicked on it, they are all very very provocative photos. Many of them were of her kissing her boyfriend, who is a JUNIOR in high school. THere were a few pictures of her smoking pot with a bunch of guys, her sticking her butt out in tight yoga pants with her new "friends". I looked at her "ask fm" attached to it and she basically admitted to having sex with her boyfriend, a few other boys, getting drunk, and high.

Should I tell my sister? Is it really my business?
ALSO, she's gotten in legal trouble before, she's shop lifted beer

[Beautiful]

Yes! Future jobs' may look at her pictures, an she might
not be able to get a good carrer. Or a pedophile
might see it and prey on her.
Someone might call CPS and take her away. Lots of things
that can ruin your nieces life.

[Jimmy]

I think you should or she will end up ruining her life like your sister did, its still your family so its your business

[Under Siege]

At 14, I would say you could notify your sister of her daughter's behavior- but that's pretty common these days. Children are getting sexually active younger and younger; having her mother keep an eye on this account might not be a bad idea but it's not going to stop. She can at least try to give her daughter advice on safe sex and being safe on the internet.

[ella]

I would have a conversation with Serena and express your concerns. Most likely she's posting the provocative pictures online because she enjoys their shock value and the attention she receives from them. You're shocked, right? That's precisely what she wants. The posing on Instagram is most likely just that...... posing. Acting. Playing for the camera. You cannot take what she writes on Ask.Fm literally, so don't hit the panic button just yet based on what she writes there. Do you have any idea how theatrical some of the kids are on there? One of my friends has completely concocted nonsense on there before, making some ludicrous claims that I know for a fact are false. It's just like teenage make-believe in a way. So many girls use that site as a stage for their drama, and the more outrageous they are, the more "likes" they get and the wider their audience becomes.

As for her dating a junior in high school, I don't find that horribly shocking since she's 14 and he's presumably 16 or perhaps 17. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 18 and in college. We're both still virgins.

She needs to take the pictures down because she's being stupid about them. Don't bother getting upset about Ask.Fm or the yoga poses. Do ask her about the pot, drinking, and such, and if it the photos are legit. Give her a chance to be smarter about things, and if she doesn't wise up, then talk to her mom. If you build up trust with her she might be more likely to ask for advice from you, and you could become a good influence. If she thinks you're an overreactive tattle tale adult she'll just roll her eyes at you and shut you out.

[Tyedyegurlie]

No. Leave the child alone, please. But let her know you're always there for her etc. but don't go telling her momma on her