I plan on donating my teenage daughter's clothes to local charity. What do you think?

[P]

Not her school uniforms. I plan on doing this on on our way to dropping her off at school. especially her shoes. She refuses to give us her password or delete her twitter account. She lies and says she forgot it but after researching, she is on at unsuspecting times. It shows the approx time she was on. Yes, it's her and she put it on privacy, again! We can't really limit her on the net because she needs it for homework. What does anyone think?
Amanda, how old are you? Grown ups only please.
So I buy her anything she wants. Let her go to school dances. Then she lies and says she doesn't know her password. She lied numerous amounts of times about everything. She may get privacy but I have a right to monitor everything she does for her welfare and ours. So you don't go into your kids room and snoop around? Your not a real parent if not. or you dont have kids.
So i take away her computer and internet, her guitar, her ukelele, took back the laptop we gave her. Oh, and she went to see a psychologist who so far agrees with what weve done so far. But, YOUR recommendations and opinions are better? okay. you have no idea.
Please, only answer if you have teenage kids. Thank you! And yes I can afford to buy more clothes.
I don't want to take it away. It's the fact that she lied about having an account and we've found out she had it for months. She can have it all day everyday. It's my job to see what the hell she's talking about once in awhile. What if there's a suspected school shooting, suicide, drugs, fights. Do I really have o break it down. Get real.

[John P]

Real battles will be ahead.

[Amanda]

well are you going to buy her new clothes? cus if you just give all her clothes away and not give her any, thats messed up....why would you do that? You are being too nosey too, teens need privacy too...way to be a parent

I am 27, but you sound like a very strict parent, I feel bad for your child..it just makes things worse if you snoop around . Just take away the internet or her computer for her to do homework..no need to look at everything and take her clothes away, you are sick

Well I have a 10 month old , but NO I am not going to go in her bedroom and snoop around just cus she doesn't want to " give up her twitter account" wow you are a horrible parent

LOL you sound psychotic , what is so bad about having a twitter? Maybe that is the only thing private she wants since you snoop around like a man person...

[L]

That is really good. May God Bless You.

[Lili]

You're going to deprive her of her clothes because she won't give you her password or delete her twitter account? What has she done online that's so awful you want the password and want her off of twitter? You haven't said.

And until you do, your plan sounds like immature, petty revenge to me. Not worthy of a intelligent parent.

Teenagers do deserve some privacy. Parents have to allow this gradually, over time, so that both parties can prepare for the day when the parents won't have any rights at all where their children are concerned. If your daughter is misusing her privacy online and you know this for sure, then allow her to use the computer only in a room where you can walk back and forth and see exactly what she is doing. Do not let her use it in her room. But forget this clothing plan. It would really make you look bad.

Edit: Frankly, your updates strongly suggest that you are not grown up enough to be a parent. It's a pity you had a child. Your daughter shouldn't be lying about her password, I'll certainly agree with that, but if I had you for a mother, I suspect I might feel forced to lie. You are clearly the person in need of a psychologist, but I'll also recommend family counseling.

[All hat]

I must say it sounds childish to give away her clothing. Hurtful, spiteful. It is a tough job to discipline a child, but you can't go tit for tat about it.

You can withhold the money perhaps for the account or any allowance. Or even consider kicking her out of the house if she refuses to follow your rules.

I'd ask the school counselor for advice too or school psychologist if there is one. Also, you might reconsider trying to take away the twitter privilege - it is pretty much a vital thing for teenagers - why are you wanting to take it away?