Could he be too good to be true?

[792]

My bf is,I could say a good person.He is so sweet,caring and understanding...I mean at a near extreme.He is so down to earth despite his academic and professional achievements.He is so hard-working to provide for his own family and he says everything he does is for our future.He is a gentleman,he never pushes me into things that I couldn't give him out of wedlock.Whenever someone insulted or wronged him,I even get mad at him because he's not there to defend himself a bit.He says that,ignorance is the greatest revenge you could ever do to your detractors.He constantly affirms that I am the only girl he could ever fall for(I'm his first gf by the way at age 22).He is honest and transparent about the things he do..he even gave his fb account and password to me telling me the I could look at it whenever I want (even his cp,he could just be so willing to have me inspect it )He never mind if it compromises his health the way he cares for me(he fetch me from my house to my office everyday and it means waking up at 4AM everyday!).He said he could risk his life.Whenever I get fussy about things and every evidence points it were all my fault,he would be the first to say sorry.I remember 30 mins.is the longest time he's angry.

I know these are some I should be happy and thankful about but it makes me afraid sometimes that he is just too good to be true.I worry that he might just change into someone so different someday.
Are my worries valid?Is he too good to be true and lasting???

[Chloe]

He sounds like a fantastic guy! The thing that you didn't mention, though, is how long you guys have been dating. That is a major determining factor. Did you just start dating? Have you been dating for 3 years? Were you friends beforehand? Did you just see these qualities when you started dating?

For your benefit, I'll answer it both ways

You just started dating, or have not yet reached a year:
Sometimes, when you first start dating (the first 6 months or so), guys will put up their best behavior. It's not necessarily a bad thing, as this happens with pretty much every relationship, and girls do it as well, hence, the honeymoon stage where everything is happy. They're not necessarily tricking you or trying to deceive you, but they just want to show you all their 'qualities'. Think about it like a job (i know, it's a terrible example lol, relationships aren't jobs, but this is the best I could come up with). On the first 3 months, it's usually a probationary period, and many employees want to put their best foot forward. But over time (say, after a year or so), your boyfriend MAY seem to act differently,, and may not be as perfect as when you initially started dating. He may slip up once in a while, like zone out while you're talking, or maybe might utter a tiny complaint or two when you ask him to pass you something that's across the room (like "aww, babe, do I really have too?, in a joking manner). But this is PERFECTLY NORMAL. It's not that he was TOO good to be true, it may just be that he gets comfortable around you, and lets his guard down. Rest assured, this is NOT a bad thing; it's actually good, because that means he trusts you and is comfortable being himself, as long as he does not intentionally hurt you or disrespect you. It's like a friendship, too; remember when you and your best friend first met? you were all shy and stuff. Now you guys even come to the point of teasing each other and not hesitating to complain or argue, but you're STILL best friends. So it's perfectly normal for it to diminish over time; as long as his core traits are still there: being a gentleman, caring for you when you're still sick, still letting you use his facebook if needed, and being nice to you when you're stressed, and not pushing you. I guess the best thing is to wait it out and see. If ANY of these traits change in a negative way over time , where he starts direspecting you and being mean, then you will know he was too good to be true.

Now, if you've been dating for a LONG time (maybe 2 years or more), then honey, that's most likely who he really is You're very lucky (you're actually lucky either way). It may just be that his parents have raised him very well, and that he has hung out with the right crowd...all of those things contribute to who he is as a person. If that is who he is even after the honeymoon stage, that's amazing! He is definitely a keeper!

I hope this answer helps