My child's father disappeared with my baby? what to do?

[Sarra]

I have sole custody of my newly one year old, from day 1 he wanted nothing to do with our daughter, he told me to get an abortion, he wouldn't be able to be in the child's life etc. When she was born he changed only a little.Well after her birthday party 2 days ago he came over my house to help out with her presents and just to hang out . He went out and bought some liquor, we drank and he clearly got drunk so I let him sleep on the couch, I went to go check on my baby girl who was in her crib (her crib is in my room) sleeping peacefully, I go to bed. I wake up around 5 am to feed her and then we go back to sleep in my bed . I awake at 9 am and she is gone, I look every where around the house and to find he is gone as well. I text and call him , he doesn't text or call me back . I called the police and they are on the hunt for him but he is no where to be found, I'm going crazy I blamed myself I don't know what to do, I want my baby back, why would he do this, what should I do?

[questionT]

I'm not going to mention that you should not have been getting super drunk without a sober supervised person in the house when you have a baby sleeping in there, i won't mention it because i know right now you are frantic about where your baby is. You need to keep checking in with the cops. Also try to contact any family member he has that you may know of, and all mutual friends. Go post a photo of her on social media and write a missing report and include any photos of the baby and also of the father.

i'm also not going to mention how you should not have had a man in the house, with your daughter there, that you do not trust or who may be erratic. Even if he is the father. But you know what, you made the mistakes and there is nothing that can turn back time, so learn your lessons and move forward. Do not allow this person in your home again until he is trustworthy, and DO press charges if you can. And don't drink like that again, especially if you are breastfeeding! the baby will be affected! And not while she's there. Keep checking in with family, friends, cops, and social media. call hospitals. make wanted signs and amber alert signs with photos and car info. call any place he may be.

i'm sending you positive energy,

[Cheryl]

Calm down drink something warm.

[Merry]

You trusted him, it was her birthday, you let your guard down ~ it really is as simple as that... so PLEASE do not waste your energy (& your mental state) going over what you would change if you could - one thing is for certain, you can not change the past!.

As for what now -

1/. Police - keep checking in with them - gather ANY information you can get that you think (or even if you don't think) that might be of use to them... this is the time for clear thinking... it is also the time to get back in touch with anyone & everyone who knows him, & to start getting to know the people in his life that you don't know!
2/. Think - yes, as stressed as you are right now, this is NOT the time to sit in a corner & cry.... think about every thing he has said to you recently - where he works, where he lives, where his family is, where his friends live.... then go & find them!!! Door knock if necessary!
3/. Get Legal Advice - once you get your daughter back you will need someone to act on your behalf & on behalf of your daughter. (take a deep breathe - from what you say this was a crazy impulsive decision on his part .... reality of what he has done will set in... trust & faith is hard to muster right now but you need to believe that everything will be ok!)
4/. Social Media/Television - get legal advice regarding whether you can/can't accuse your ex of taking your daughter but at the very least you can start putting images of your daughter out there (someone has to have seen her!)
5/. Get some family/friends around you - you need someone to support you & take care of you right now!

Good Luck

[Merry]

If you have full custody then what he did was kidnap. Call the police.