Why doesn't women on pof (plenty of fish) reach out to any men? Are the profiles fake or something?

[.John May]

@Kittysue; @Fred: They NEVER reply to guy's messages; atleast not mine. The most they do is view your profile..after you've messaged them, and that's it. It makes guys feel so Un-attractive, worthless and feel ashame for even having their face on that site. They're so picky.
@Tyler: They almost Never reply to guy's messages. Even if they do, they randomly stop talking to you. A guy can be reaching out for help and the women wouldn't care.

[Kittysue]

Online dating is like real in person dating. 90% of women will not ask a man out. They wait for men to ask them out. How many women have ever asked you out in person vs how many you've asked out? It's exactly the same online

[Fred]

They have more sense than to reach out for any of the men on there. They want real men.

[Tyler]

It does happen but it is not very common. I did meet one girl who contacted me first but I have met a few girls because I contacted them first. You will have better luck if you take the initiative and talk with them. I think most girls still want the guy to make the first move. Best of luck to you buddy.

[Jim]

Kittysue is right, but fails to mention that women don't need to reach out - they get hit on more times than they can handle.

[the only way out]

They simply aren't interested, same as real life. I don't think people are too invested in pof, judging by the bad profiles.

Reddit has a POF community, and communities for other sites as well, you could ask for advice on making a more attractive profile. I've seen posts like that there, give it a shot.

Regarding the reaching out thing, you may be coming across as too needy, not confident enough.

So for that I'd recommend taking the advice from these two forums, judge click around to the links on the right, or the FAQ.

[Kevin]

John,

Unless a man is really rich or extremely handsome (why would they be on Plenty of Fish) his profile really has to do the selling. It's competitive out there and if the profiles lame then that means no interest.

Good news is most men's profiles are awful and will never hold a woman's attention long enough to get her to reply so if a man can write a good profile he absolutely will get replies and even women contacting him first.

Make your profile funny. Some women have recently come out of a tired and boring relationship and if you can make them smile they will warm to you and gravitate to you.

The real difficult thing to master is knowing when to ask them out or ask for their number. I usually wait until I have had at least two conversations on POF before asking. I also make sure I drop the request into the conversation when they have just found something I've typed funny. That works.

Good luck buddy