My husband blocked the fb website! Although he logs on daily, he feels I shouldn't!?

[Nikki]

I recently quit my full-time job to finish my bachelors degree & to be home w/ our 2 kids (their grades have went up, A & B's). He thinks I'm on fb all day because he sees posts here & there. I have never given him a reason not to trust me. I must say I am very a loyal and trustworthy person. In fact, I have always told him he can look at everything I do on fb. I don't inbox or "im"anyone...I simply make posts on their walls. I am not hiding or doing anything inappropriate. I tried to tell him Fb is a great way to stay in touch w/ old friends and even family. I explained that just like he gets to socialize at work, fb is my break. It's my little escape between laundry, kids homework, my schoolwork etc...I told him I refuse to be controlled. I'm not a child. I find it very disrespectful and rude. I feel like he has no regards to my feelings. Also, it concerns me that he thinks blocking me is okay. When I ask him about it, claims he did not block fb and laughs. Then I get mad and he says, "Wow, are you really that addicted to fb?" I just don't think it's fair that he gets to mingle with adults all day and log on to fb. Hypocrite! He is in an office environment and gets adult interaction. I am at home alone, writing papers and doing the typical household chores. When the kids get home we do homework, etc....I feel like if I want to log onto fb for a few minutes (approx. 30 minutes total per day), I am entitled to that. I don't think a man has the right to put barriers and controls on what I can and can't do. Am I wat off base with this? I am so frustrated right now!!
I texted him at work and told him I'm uploading software and free programs to unblock fb. He said they will cause our computers to crash because those free programs have viruses! I replied with, "So sorry about your luck!" I have learned in my 37 years of life that one will only do what you allow them to do! I will not tolerate someone telling me what I can a can't do, especially something as petty as logging onto a website. We are grown adults and are allowed to make our own choices. I will not stay in a relationship and deal w/ petty bs! This is absolutely ridiculous. I have papers to write and don't have time for this mess!!!! He claims fb is a waste of time, is for losers, etc. Even though he rarely makes posts, he is constantly checking to see what everyone is doing!

[RitchWilliams]

I agree with you, he shouldn't. Frankly, I'm amazed that you tolerate it. But this isn't a question, it is a situation and we can't tell you how to handle your husband. I have a feeling you know how to handle your husband far better than we do.

[mmm]

I am confused - if he blocked you from his facebook - he is the one with something to hide

[Krys]

Oh man! Facebook causes a lot of problems thats all I can say! My fiance hates fb too. He thinks its an absolute waste of time and therefore doesnt let me go on it anymore either. It is a great way to keep in touch with friends and relatives, and I miss it!! But at the same time I dont want to give him any reason to believe its more impotant then us...so I just dont bother!

Good luck girl. I would thin it completely unfair that he still uses fb thats for sure! Ask him if he has a quilty consious or something! Hypocrite!

[LemonSqueezy]

My husband hates fb also and picks fights all the time over posts from or to any other man. I wouldn't put it past him to block it and if he did I would probably just make another Log-in to the computer and see if that one would let me into fb. I don't even acknowledge those kinds of behaviors from my husband anymore. I will do what I want and I'm not going to fight about it and defend myself when I've done nothing wrong.

[Gina]

You are right he has no right to block you. I know people are going to say that this is just a little petty thing but it really isn't. That's the first sign of a controlling relationship. If I were you I would stop talking to him. He doesn't want you to socialize with anyone so don't socialize with him.

[Stephanie Simmons]

he shouldn't be allowed to control you that is unfair tell him how you feel and ask him not to tell you what to do

[xcuddlex]

just ask him to pick one 'give me my fb or i'll leave the house'. if he laughs, just leave for a couple of days. bring the kids too.

[Nedz]

If a couple has rules, they should all apply to both partners equally. There's no such thing as unilateral rules in a partnership.

You are behaving appropriately on fb. Some people object to it on cultural grounds, particularly older people, but tough, for better or worse we're all connected now.

When you say he blocked you, do you mean he's done something to stop you getting into fb? This is bullying. Get round it by using a proxy server. ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Proxy_server ). Then think about whether HIS behaviour has implications for the health of your relationship generally.