My BF is FB friends with the woman I hate.?

[774]

He knows I hate her. She flirts with him, although I'm told he doesn't flirt back. She tried to friend me also but I ignored it. We all together (bad, I know). And I'm out for surgery for a couple weeks. Now I see they're FB friends. Should I assume he's cheating? I don't know, does FB mean anything? I've told him I don't like her. Why would he effin friend her? Should I ask him about it?
*We all work together (bad, I know).

[Scottydog]

Hi, yes, ask him about it. Try really hard not to be accusing or angry (because he will then just be defensive). Try to be really calm and just ask why he chooses to be friends with her on FB when he knows you dislike her. LISTEN to what he says... If it's just BS then ask him if he would consider unfriending her for the sake of your peace of mind? If he refuses I think you have a right to be wary...

If you were friends on FB with a guy he disliked, and who flirted with you, if he asked you to unfriend said guy, then you would, right? Because what is the point of causing pain if it is an unimportant person to you?

However, if he has a good reason to stay friends with her, you will need to question your own insecurities.

I hope it all works out for you.

[Native]

Why do you feel it is your right to dictate who he can like? You don't. On the other hand, you do have the right to question HER motives IF you really think she's trying to get him away from you. The fact that you hate her, will make it hard for you to say anything to her, and trust me, she KNOWS that. HOWEVER, she DID give you the chance to be friends, and YOU shut the door.

Lesson you need to learn - hate will always turn against you, one way or the other. Work out your issues instead of ignoring them.