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Should I get even?
06-08-2014, 10:10 PM
Post: #1
Should I get even?
So a friend of mine, well ex-friend now, told the girl I like bad things about me. He told her things that I didn't want him to tell anyone, especially her. Yesterday, I tried talking to her and she immediately brought up the stuff he told her, and she hates me now. I was going to go in the same prom group as her, but now I can't. He did it intentionally too, I just can't figure out why.

My hypothesis: He likes the girl too. I was about to get into a relationship with this girl last January, but she randomly became uninterested. I'm thinking now that my friend has been feeding her bad things about me for a long time, since they are really close friends. Another reason I think that is because when I texted her yesterday to ask when he had told her those things, and she refused to tell me.

I'm pretty mad, but I feel even more hurt and betrayed.

Now I'm just trying to decide if I should retaliate. I'm good at this stuff, I mean I'm creative enough and I won't feel any regret about completely fucking this kids life over. I know it's morally wrong, but I really want to ruin what he's ruined for me. Please don't say "Be the bigger man", give me a real reason of why I shouldn't get back at him?
I'm not trying to win her back, my reputation with her is ruined. I wouldn't even ask her if she wanted me to just because of he she'd look at me. He didn't tell her that I cheated on a math test, or something small, he told her I drink, smoke weed, and tried to hook-up with a slutty girl. (She tried to hook-up with me, oh and the slutty girl is also this kids best friend...)

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06-08-2014, 10:15 PM
Post: #2
 
I would say that you should do nothing. Show this ex-friend of yours that you are the better person and that a little petty betrayal like this won't send you over the edge. Show him that you are the stronger and more mature person. I know it's hard, trust me on that, I've had my fair share of betraying friends.... but what he wants is to see you get mad and do something stupid to prove himself better to this girl. But if you act mature about it, she might just think that he is just a child and that what he did was immature!
good luck! Smile

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06-08-2014, 10:19 PM
Post: #3
 
I am in a similar situation but I guess you have it a tad worse.

I asked a girl to prom. I liked her alot and she goes to the same school as me and works at the same place. I asked her on valentines day. she cried and said no because someone had asked her first!

I ask another girl and she says yes then later she mesages me on facebook saying no because after I asked her, someone else she liked asked her after me and she said yes to him. See whenther i asked first or second, i still ended up with the short end of the stick.

I'm not sure which way you should take...i think you will regret it one way or another but being in a similar situation where I want to ask my co worker again to prom (ergo stealing the date) i'm not sure either.

What I will say is this: whenther you chose to go even or not. You go all in.

So if you choose not to do anything, you DON'T DO ANYTHING TO GET EVEN PERIOD.

BUT if you choose to do something, you make sure it hurts...and makes sure you get your point across because the worst thing that can happen is that you pull out halfway!

Answer mine! we are both talking about prom
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06-08-2014, 10:34 PM
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1. He will have won by bringing you down to his level.
2. Retaliation tends to just keep escalating. Someone at some point has to say enough is enough.
3. If the girl doesn't like you because she now knows things about you you were hiding from her, and those things are true, then you're both better off that she found out before you started dating. Since she and he are really close friends, he may have just been trying as a friend to protect her from getting involved with someone he thinks or knows has done bad things.
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