How do I get him back in jail? Please help...?

[sasha n]

My boyfriend beat me up this summer...badly. The d.a issued an order of protection and I began to heal physically and emotionally. When my wounds began to heal he contacted me and seemed remorseful. We resumed our relationship shortly thereafter. Well I recently found out everything has been a big huge lie. He came back in my life just to abuse me more.

Last week I tried to break up with him and he kicked in my front door breaking the lock and he slapped me in the face . I called the police on him . He got charged for criminal mischief and breaking the order of protection which was a felony.

I began to feel bad about calling the police on him. His mom called me crying begging me to drop the charges so when I had to speak to the d.a . I lied and covered his ass. I told them i initiated contact and he broke the door by accident and that I wasnt fearful of him when in fact I was at the time.

I told them I wanted to drop all the charges. The d.a said they couldnt prosecute him for the felony without my testimony so it will be dismissed in a few months.

Well after I got the felony charge off of him I thought he'd see I really cared for him. Im one month pregnant and i called him all day yesterday and he ignored me . I changed my number and he answered the phone. I told him you know im pregnant why are you doing this? He said get an abortion and die than he laughed and hung up the phone.

I just lied to the d.a to save him from jail! This is how he repays me.

He has a court date for those charges this morning and I want to show up and tell the d.a now I will testify . I will look like a big liar though so im nervous.

When he got released from jail he called me from his mom cellphone. He broke the restraining order AGAIN by making that phone call to me. He also wrote me a message on facebook and its dated the day he was released.

Can I get him for breaking the restraining order again...? What do i say when i go to the court this morning ?

I am so nervous. Im just so angry that he manipulated me into dropping the charges and leaving me pregnant by myself .

[Ricki]

You need some help to figure out why you feel sorry for this P O S given the way he treats you over and over again.

Look in your local area for a battered women's shelter (because that is what you are). Go talk to them. You aren't the first woman to deal with someone like this and unfortunately, you won't be the last.

[Rosalie]

Please go to court this morning and testify against him - pronto - and STICK TO IT.

THis is typical of battered women, and precisely the reason I won't volunteer with a support group. You need to be your own (and now your child's) best advocate, not your own worst enemy.

Ask a trusted friend to keep after you and never let you recant or start feeling badly for him ever again. Block ALL forms of communication with him, get a new phone, get a PO box, move somewhere else.

If you have a pet, send it off to a foster home that is someplace he cannot trace. Ask the local Animal Control for programs - there are foster homes that will hold your pet for you in anonymous out-of-area safety. And get in with a Battered Woman's shelter group and do EVERYTHING they tell you to do.

This guy is wired wrong and doesn't care- and now you are all the more vulnerable because you are pregnant. Go to Planned Parenthood and get health care immediately. It doesn't have to be an abortion, you can keep your child, adopt the baby out- but consider that if it is his, that will forever tie you to him. If you are keeping the baby and raising them yourself, you need to know the steps for protecting both of you.

Please take every bit of this dead seriously. These guys are habitual liars, and you have experienced what they do. They can be very charming and lure you in for another punch- and sooner or later you will end up dead if you do not get hep and disappear completely - and ask police for protection every step of the way.

Please go now, and stand up to him. The court sees women beaten into lying for their batterers all the time. Stop letting him bully you into this, and tell the truth. The police cannot protect you until you cooperate, and they will all be relieved that they can now help you. You are your own best advocate or your own worst enemy. Please go be strong and help yourself - NOW.

[ahsoasho2u2]

AN ORDER OF PROTECTION and you were seeing him?
Then lied and covered for him because MOMMY DEAREST asked you too.
The man is a socio psychopathic deviant (CRIMINAL) who knows how too manipulate people to feel all they do is the other persons fault. Quite obviously you took it hook line and sinker lady.
Take the cell phone too court and show his true allegiance to you and let the court decide about his fate in this lifetime.