How can I get a hold of my biological fathers family?

[Lexi Adkins]

Hello I've never met my father nor his family and his family lives in the freaking city as me. My father is no longer in the US but my mother has told me that his family still lives here.(in my city) All I know is his name, and his sisters(my aunts) name and last name. I don't want a father relationship with him because I consider the man that has been with my mom since I was 6 months and who supported me and now pays for my college as my father.
All I want is just to know who they are because after all, I am half of them if that makes sense.
How can I do this? what would the steps be?
Thank you..

ps: I can't ask my mom because she gets upset and is a very stressed person and I really don't want to hear her opinion.. I am an adult, moved out and have a daughter of my own.. this is my choice.

[Writergrl21]

You're probably going to have to start with the aunt, your father's sister. Since you have her name, and she still lives near you she is probably your best avenue. Before you wonder who I am and what I could know about this, let me tell you. My mom married the man I consider my dad when I was four. He's the best dad I could have asked for and I have never considered him as less than my real dad. But, like you, I have a biological father and another family who share half of my DNA. There is something to that, that makes you curious about them and how they are like you and how they are different and even just practically what their health is like. Right? Have you tried social media? I am in contact with my biological family on facebook, and I love it because it's safe and a low level of commitment. I can keep up with them, talk to them and I don't have to worry about defining anything. More and more people are using it, so it might be the right place for you. You could send a message and feel things out before trying to meet them in person. Short of that your options are pretty limited. A directory might tell you her phone number and/or address, but I wouldn't just call or show up. A letter or an email first to see what she and her family think about meeting you would be a good idea. You're curious, and you have a right to be, absolutely. But the thing is you may not know or understand how they think of you. Tread lightly, and kindly, and good luck!