why do i express such negative thoughts? how can i solve it?

[476]

I feel bad with little things like if someone didn't follow me on instagram or didn't accept my friend request on fb or didn't reply to my message,then i feel those people hate me..why does this happen with me,why do people not follow me or reply to me? Also whenever i like some guy,the guy always gets a girlfriend.I am 18 and still never dated anyone no one likes me back and it's not that i am ugly,in fact many people say i am really fair and pretty and also i am nice to everyone yet why do people behave like this with me? Can i solve this problem?

[Divya]

You know when you are thinking negative because you feel it in your body. There will be a sense of restlessness, unease and sometimes a nauseating constriction felt through out your body when you are thinking obsessive negative thoughts.

Worrying obsessively is a form of negative thinking. Resenting the past, or feeling guilty about the things you did back then, is another form negative thinking.

Quite simply, when your negativity is projected in the future it’s called worrying and when it’s pointed towards the past it’s usually guilt or resentment.

Use these anti-negativity thinking tips to get your thinking in order -

1. Stop thinking in extremes
2. Stop over-generalizing the negative
3. Don't minimize the positive
4. Stop mindreading
5. Stop taking all the responsibility
6. Stop forcing your own rules on life like
"If he loved me, he wouldn't do that."
"If I was a good mother, I wouldn't lose my temper."
"People shouldn't act like that."
"If I can't do this, then I must be really stupid!"
"He was late - he must be seeing someone else!"
"Saying that means he doesn't respect me!"
7. Stop making stuff up and believing it

You have to make a choice on whether you want to go through life in an insane manner or in a sane manner. Life is always asking you to make this one choice. Your negative thinking is nothing but a resistance to life itself. The only way to drop it is by bringing negative thought patterns to the light of your presence and scrutiny. Then you realize there was no truth to them to start with.

Good luck

[forget me not]

You are good , pretty, fair, lovely, beautiful even then guys don't like you. There is only one reason and that is your attitude with guys is not nice and perfect. Please change your attitude and you will find that every one will like you and wish to remain with you. They will feel happy in your company.

Thanks.
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