What he said doesn't make sense?

[Lilz]

It's been going on a month since my ex and I broke up. I know I should move on, but I feel like it would help if I knew what he meant for acting the way he did. We've had two relationships. Both about a month long, but we've been dating off and on for about a year (it took a while for me to fall for him/become interested because I didn't originally see him in that way). Everything was fine, we spent a lot of time together, we'd go to the movies occasionally, out to eat, and I'd stay the night with him in his apartment a lot (we're in college). Mostly though, we cuddled/slept together (yes, sex too) or just talked in his room. I'm mostly Black (which is what I identify as) and he's White.

He told me he asked his family a while back hypothetically what would they think if he brought home a Black girl. He told me that his family would disown him if he brought home anyone of another race. He said he didn't want to cause friction in his family if he wasn't in love. I said "blood is thicker than water, but you're going to have to live with your decision." He decided to date me anyway and was ecstatic. I met his father twice. The first was awkward because he had lied to his parents where he was and then his car battery went dead and we were stuck. His father never showed any negativity toward me. His father called him and asked were we dating after we were tagged in pictures on facebook and my ex told me his father didn't say anything when he confirmed.

My mom thinks race is the issue. My ex said we should be friends because we didn't have anything in common. YET, he has told me on multiple occasions that I was the best girlfriend he's ever had, he could see himself marrying me (which he denies saying that now), and that when he's around me, it bothers him to not be with me in a relationship. Also, the week before each break up, he just stopped texting me and didn't see me. HE DIDN'T EVEN TRY TO FIND THINGS THAT WE LIKE TO DO TOGETHER. I didn't enjoy one intramural game with him and his friends and then he says we have nothing in common. No, we don't have a lot in common, but this isn't anything new to him. We haven't been speaking because his best friend said we need a break so we won't keep getting back together. Also, his best friend has just decided to exclude me from group events and he told me he's "just trying to not complicate things" and apparently me texting my ex is a sign we need a break.

So basically, I don't know if my ex just isn't mature enough for the kind of relationship I want (a long-term one), his family has said negative things to him about race, or that he just thinks we don't have anything in common. He tried SO hard to win my affection in the beginning and now he won't even speak to me when I did nothing wrong. He told me I didn't do anything wrong.

[Johnluke Morse]

Maybe his parents made him stop dating u with treats maybe I'm sure he didn't won't to break up with you u seem really nice so maybe that's what happend