Is my friend being stupid on online dating sites?

[Jackie]

I have this friend who is really attractive, spends a lot of time working out, and likes showing off her body. Most of her pictures on Facebook are bikini pics, and she has said she doesn't even fill out her online dating profiles but just puts up bikini pictures. She gets a whole bunch of messages, but I'm thinking these guys are pretty shallow considering there is no information about her other than the pictures showing off her body.

She's talked to a couple of these guys, and they typically start talking about sex in the very first conversation. Which makes sense to me, since that's the type of guy you're going to get when you're putting up half naked pics of yourself. With one of these guys, they had a couple of conversations, and the second convo became all about sex. The guy said he had pleasured himself thinking of her, and when they met, after they got to know one another, he was going to "f*** your BRAINS out." She engaged in what I thought was a filthy conversation with him, including the different positions that they were going to try and all the graphic details of all of it. He then asked for a naked picture, and she actually sent one! There was another guy she talked to who of course started talking about what he wanted to do to her sexually in the first conversation, and he basically wanted to meet her for sex. He even said she should come to his apartment, because there aren't many people there, and she can scream as loud as she wants and no one will be bothered. Is it just me, or is that incredibly creepy???

She says she has sent naked pictures of herself to other guys as well when they asked. She says it's just for fun, but I think she's being kind of an idiot. For me, when a guy starts talking about sex right off the bat, it's a red flag, and you NEVER send naked pictures because who knows where they could end up. But again, that's what a girl is going to get when she posts half naked selfies online. She thinks that I'm a prude and could stand to be more like her.

Which one of us is right?

[397]

Both. Neither. She's doing what she likes, and (presumably), you're doing what you like.

[Ath]

She is very foolish.

All those naked pics of her floating around cyberspace are going to come back to haunt her one day. I'm sure she'll feel that it was all awesome fun when one day she finds a bunch of co-workers perving at her pics and laughing. Even funnier when her boss tells her she is no longer considered suitable to work in the organisation due to her online profile.

Sending nudie pics to random strangers in nothing but the grossest stupidity.


ADD: I'm not saying I would discriminate against someone for posting such pics but many employers will.

[storm]

why do you worry about her? I think it's her life and if she happy about it it's none of your business and how come you say if a guy starts talking about sex in first round it's a red flag? I don't think I think it's quite shallow to think like that because when she puts all her bikini pics what can she expects from a guy? she provokes them and guys are provoked. it's quite natural if no guy comes after her then it means she is either ugly or there is something wrong with the guys around her because biologically men attract to women and women attract to men. have you ever noticed how so many girls attract to justin bibier? now why don't you call those girls perverts etc..? why only blame men.?
you can't stop it with ur feminist laws. men attract women and women attract men. in this case she enjoys showing her body and guys enjoy looking at it so both parties win-win I agree it's bad to send nude pics because there is a risk they publish it on Internet but if she sends it to a stranger then it's her fault and perhaps she might need it too if she happy her pics roam on internet then it wouldn't even be an issue. I think it's wrong to discriminate people like ATH mentioned. I will never kick a girl out or stop dating for her past naked pics. I think people should learn to accept nudity isn't a so taboo thing.

[Hali]

I think you have to be careful on online dating sites, where most people lie about their age and jobs, and appearance. She doesn't know anything about these people, and has to be more careful. There are different kinds of predators in the world hiding behind computer screens. It's idiotic to trust people you've never met. You are not prudish, you're intelligent to think about the ramifications.

[Mary]

Yes

[Oerba Dia Luna]

She's making some bad decisions but hey what can you do? Everything always works out for the best in the end. If she doesn't mind her nude pictures walking around the internet then it's cool. She's not really hurting anyone but herself. She'll wake up one day.

[Jade]

I think it is foolish for her to send naked pics to strangers. They could end up all over the internet and follow her around in the future in a negative way if she is trying to be some sort of professional.

Plus, if she dates guys who are only interested in her for her body and she goes off with them alone, she doesn't know anything about who they are or what they might do to her. They could rape or murder her. Just please warn your friend not to go off alone with strangers.

I had a friend who met a stranger she met online for the first time at his house alone. He gave her two choices. She had to give him oral or he would rape her. She gave him oral. She'd never done that to anyone before...

I found it hard to sympathize since I'd been warning her what might happen, and I was just glad she wasn't dead and in a trash bag somewhere.