Girls: Am I doing the right thing with this girl?? Does she like me or is she just using me??!!?

[madman100]

Yeah. So, there is this girl who I think may be using me. I'm not 100% sure though. I met her through a friend about a year ago. From the day I met her, she seemed to have a bit of a soft spot for me. She used to flirt with me a lot of the time etc. She invited me to go and do paper rounds with her. We would sit on a grass bank and she told me one time, after I came back of holiday that her and her boyfriend were arguing while I was away. I asked why, and she said "cause he found out that I kind of like u." I wasn't sure how I felt at the time so I said nothing. I regret it now though!!! :Z

Anyway, like most teen girls, she continued to have a few boyfriends, she would pop up on facebook and post random things like "i'm a ninja don't mess." to my wall. I asked her out about 6 months ago and she said no, soz. She denied saying that she ever liked me and that there were plenty of other fish in the sea for me.!!

Any way we still spoke after that. She poped up on facebook bk in july and asked if I wanted to go out and walk her new puppy with her. I of course said yes.
But then, she gets this new boyfriend. She just seems to drop me. She doesn't bother to pop up on facebook. We have those really short conversations that everyone hates on chat. She liked my photo's and status a lot. Especially the ones to do with love and not saying what u really feel. -(u know the type!!).

Anyway I spoke to my dad, which wasn't a good idea, cause he's a women beater, and I don't really like him. He said this: "oh lad, she's aright slag, shes a cock tease. U don't need people like that in ur life. Shake her off mate. She's just using u 4 attention when her bf isn't around!!"

I didn't take much from this advise casue he's a right dick tbh.
Any way, I decided to try out something. Since she is always hard to get I thought I'd try the game too!! D

Anyway, I started to not be as clingy and desperate and backed off at school. I hanged around with my mates, making sure I was in good view of her and so that she could see that I was happy without her!!

Any way, it kind of worked. She finally got the hint that i'm a bit pissed off!!! I was outside with my mates and she walked past with her 2 friends. I know that it wasn't normal cause she normally hangs inside. My mate shouted over to her and said hi. She shouted hiya back. She walked past and stopped a couple of metres away. I caught her looking over at my group a few times!!!

Then, last lesson today, I was waiting outside my class on my own, and she came over on her own, she looked kind of awkward if u know what I mean!! any way, from what I saw, she looked nervous and like she was kind of was lost and uncomfortable. She leaned against the wall and looked around. We were only about 1 metre away from each other, Me on one wall, her on the other. She didn't say anything anyway. She also doesn't like my statu's anymore or my photos.

She posted on her friends timeline last week, saying, "would you use someone to get at someone u really like??" Her friend said no, it;s kinda tight, why??" She then said, nothing, just wondering!!!

Another day, she also posted to the same friend and said, "why is everyone so moody with me??"
Her friend said, "i'm not, why??" She then said, "doesn't matter! I'll tell u tomoz!!!"

So, i'm sure u can tell that I like her, but i've been doing this ignoring thing since monday now. I want to see if she really likes me enough ti chase me!!!
Are girls stuburn??

If she likes me, will she chase me??
Give your opinions please??!!

10 Points and i'll answer all of your questions!!! Give me all of the links to all of your Open Questions and i'll answer them for u!!!

Thanks.

[The Curious]

First of all if she like you she will chase you but you are saying that she made a few boyfriends before too...so that's the thing to worry about! Your dad maybe partially right but not fully wrong, Yes,Girls do manipulate/seduce/charm guys to use them...I liked your ignoring strategy so continue ignoring her and see if she gets back on her feet!

[Siobhon]

That's a really long question you have there ^.^

In my opinion, from what you've said it sounds like she wants to be loved, and at the moment, from the string of guys you say she's been with, she doesn't seem to be able to handle a relationship right now, maybe she's experimenting and trying to find out herself?
either way it sounds like you're feelings are pretty deep for this girl and she's still at the stage where she's figuring out what love is, be careful she doesn't end up hurting you in the process.

if she does have feelings for you then she's going to notice that you've not been giving her as much attention, and she's likely to try to get you interested again but in the end it's your call, you can never really tell what us girls are thinking because half the time we don't understand what we feel ourselves ^.^

Oh, one more thing, i can't be sure of what type of girl this is but if you want her interested and she is, i wouldn't play distant with her for more then a couple of weeks if you're playing things safe. There tends to be a make or break point where either it'll work, or she'll end up getting bored thinking you're not interested and find someone else who can replace you =/

Nothing is really clear or simple when it comes to things like this, but i hope that helps?

[Yellow]

Bro, this girl seems like a player the way you described her as. She said she liked you, then denied it later? wtf. Anyways, she had a load of other bf's before which suggests she is deffo not committed. I think your dad has a point... just think what he said again. Also, yes. there are PLENTY of fish in the sea.
But, if you really like her n everything, and think shes perfect for you, carry on doing the whole ''i don't care boutyou" attitude, it will attract her even more, TRUST ME ON THIS.

Anyway, good luck wish you all the best!!!

[Danielle]

I think she may like you a bit......
She obviously used to. Maybe she thinks it's never going to happen and that's why shes getting so many boyfriends. In all honesty I think she is an average girl. But don't ignore her to much cuz then she will think that you don't want her at all. just every once in a while say hey and carry on with your life. But not to often cuz then it seems REALLY obvious what you have been doing. It may be confusing to you, but girls are like this. I hope that she comes running back to you, but in the meantime don't worry. I know it's an old saying that you have probs heard LOADS but: If fate says your meant to be, you will find each other in the end. Whilst you are a single pringle tho, enjoy life! Live it as best as you can! I hope this is good advice cuz believe it or not I'm in year 8! But I know about girls brains and I am also good at giving advice to my friends. So I REALLY hpe this helped. THANKS!

P.S I LOVE how you talked about your dad: I didn't take much from this advise casue he's a right dick tbh.

Please also look at some of my questions here:

http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind...841AA1MDVD

http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind...812AAfxQf2

THANKS! AND I HOPE MY ADVICE WAS TO YOUR LIKING!