How can I get passed the feelings of HATE . . .?

[Annabella]

I'm on social media (facebook) and I've reconnected w/ some old childhood friends.

A girl I grew up with has recently friended my sister. I have not spoken to my sister in 12 yrs. I'm fine being facebook friends w/ this person because I think she's an amazing & kind but she has been posting pics of herself w/ my sister & it's making me physically ill.

My sister has done everything in her power to ruin me from as far back as childhood, she has spread really awful rumors and for a while every time someone saw me they would be shocked & said that my sister had told them I died drunk in a gutter, etc. so they were surprised I was even alive still. It's just BAD & always has been. She's a very very very jealous & spiteful person. She stole money & a business in a really underhanded way from our mother & left her penniless. My mom lives w/ me & my husband now because of this.

I decided 12 yrs ago to never allow her negative energy near me again & now I feel like I constantly have to see her in these pictures & I know this might sound weird but it's like the negative energy reaches through even from the internet.

My sister is now friending other friends of mine & I can't handle it. Aside from just deleting my entire facebook & all of my friends . . . what can I tell myself to get over this? I actually feel sick when I see her & I can't warn people about her because I would look crazy.

Thx :-)

[Peggy]

Okay. So you have (and will continue to have) rotten karma with your sister. I have had a situation like this with my husband's mother. All I do is try not to think of her. I never speak to her or of her. Yes, you do need to delete your Facebook account. Your sister (as you know) is not going to stop her behavior. All you can do is get away COMPLETELY from the situation. I know what you mean. I cannot even look at a picture of my mother-in-law without getting slightly nauseous. I have worked very, very hard for many years to not hate her. Even if you are not particularly religious (which is perfectly fine) I suggest that you pray to keep your OWN heart clear and free from hatred of all beings. Why? Because hatred is such a bad thing for our immune systems. Keep IMMEDIATELY "switching the mental channel" whenever your think of your sister or come upon a picture. It is work. It is constant. And it will most likely continue for the remainder of your life. I say, get rid of your Facebook account and save your sanity and your health. Believe me, it is worth it. After all, its only Facebook. It is not real friends that you are talking to face-to-face. You won't really be losing anything except negativity if you let it go.

[Brittney]

Well, first of all, I don't think you would look crazy to warn people of her, depending on how you go about it. If you jumble everything up and rant and rave, then yes, people would probably be less inclined to believe you and probably think it's the usual family member verus family member drama they may not want to get involve in. I think that if they are you friends who you can trust and are even a little close to, that they will listen to you if you go about it the right way. Just tell them you have to talk to them about the sister and share your experiences in a calm way--don't complain about the sister, just share your experiences as a fair warning to the friends. If you are close with the friends, let them know how merely seeing the sister's face makes you feel, and your explanation of your experiences with her will be the 'why' to your feelings. If they care about you, they'll understand, but of course get to choose what they do about her being on their friend's list.

[THE BANNIBAL ONE]

Get rid of your Facebook account.This isn't life.
Real life is going out,meeting people and going places together.
If you can't do without FB,cancel this account.Block whoever
you do not like and add friends who have no contact with her.