my mother in law announced my pregnancy and the babies name on facebook?

[kate]

I am in my first pregnancy to make it out of the first trimester and will hopefully be induced next week. With our history of pregnancy losses despite the fact that this pregnancy is going much better we really wanted to wait until the baby was born to announce it publically. However my mil, whom we are not extreme close to recently announced our pregnancy, approximate due date the babies name and gender on Facebook.

She refuses to remove the information and continues to post about it. Many friends and family did not have the information. We figured out that her SIL is also becoming a grandmother again soon, but her daughter has posted a lot of information, so we think she is jealous of the sister in laws attention.

This will be mils fifth grandchild and our first baby, so it is not as though she has never been a grandparent in the past. She has also not shown any interest in the baby prior to posting this. She and my husband generally speak about once a month when he calls her. She does not enquire about the pregnancy or the baby, he gives her information because he wants a bond with his mother. I support that but am horrified by her behavior if this pregnancy should end poorly everyone we know will now be aware of that. If it does end well most of our family now found out all about it by Facebook rather than by personal phone call, which is what we wanted.

[Ricki]

Ignore her would be my suggestion. You've asked her to take this down and she's refused so it sounds like she has a few screws lose.

If anyone asks, just say that you haven't picked a name and leave it at that. If she thinks she's going to railroad you into picking her name because it's been out there for 8 months or so, is she in for a surprise. She can then explain to people why the child's name is something else.

Just don't let her get under your skin.

[Holly]

From now on, don't tell her anything you don't want the world to know. If she's not that close with your husband, that should be fine. Let her know things just before you're ready for them to be public (that way she'll still feel special knowing before others, but not before you're ready for others to know!).

Unfortunately there's not much your can do about this situation, you can only prevent it from happening again. It sucks that you didn't get to tell your family the way you wanted to, but that really doesn't change anything, and I'm sure these people will understand.

[Joseph the Second]

There's really not much You can DO about your Mother-In-law ( they come with the "Territory" I'm afraid), other than Ignore her & let Your Husband handle Her... So DO so, & good luck with Your new Baby !!

[Peaches12]

Announce your pregnancy!
But add in there that because some people couldn't keep their mouth shut you had to. Be honest.... With your history you wanted to wait & ask for prayers!

Omg I'm trying to answer your question but I'm so mad because this is so what my mother in law would do! She posts photos with my daughter like she sees her all the time. Really she sees her once every 3-4 months. When I sent my photo & baby info via text but sent it with a water mark & a note that asked ppl not to share via text forward or Facebook!!! iPhone app called pic stitch lets you write on the photo.

[tagboy]

Sorry but some in=laws have big mouths