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Is there anything wrong with walking away from everything?
06-21-2014, 11:49 AM
Post: #1
Is there anything wrong with walking away from everything?
I'm a 28 year old guy, I have a business degree, a good job, saved alota money for the future which seems great and all. My sisters have their own life and they don't seem to care, my parents are getting older and they don't seem to care about life and all my friends are busy.

Every girl I've dated has been a horrible experience because I get to know them and while I try to focus my attention on them by caring about them, in the end they didn't care about me at all so yeah I guess u can say there attention seeking and selfish.

I'm not pleased with society either because I've tried to predicate good, care about others, help others including senior citizens...I'm not the kind of guy who's going to keep in touch with ppl by writing pointless messages on facebook I do this crazy thing that people did back in the day which was pick up the phone and call because I care in that sense, I'm the kind of guy where I REFUSE to have kids unless the girl I marry I truly love and I know financially and mentally I'm there for them as a husband and father...but I don't have that...I feel like leaving where I currently and staying at a remote location.

Now I mentioned this to a few ppl and there saying don't leave man, stay! What's wrong. "Shaking my head".
I'm not expecting a reward for being nice, I have lived a very hard life style and I have to say that yes I try to be a good person because my dad physically and mentally abused me so I don't want to be like him I want to be a GOOD person, with girls I've had my opportunities with them sex wise but I didn't bother cuz I didn't think it was right and they did have issues with their past, I don't go looking for bad girls I mean seriously who does?

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06-21-2014, 12:02 PM
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Just put your dick inside a fish

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06-21-2014, 12:16 PM
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Sounds like one of the symptoms of awakening.
At 28 you are going through what is termed a "Saturn return" in your astrological chart. This is always a wake-up call, usually accompanied by a slap in the face. Some of us equate this to being lifted off a city street and dropped into a trackless swamp to fight our way out of it for the next couple of years. Some people are already on track and so their lives go on unimpeded.
Basically, you need to spend some time in contemplation, figuring out things and making some plans. Not every female out there is a nincompoop gold-digger. You need to find people of your own sort... consider professional associations and other types of networking... consider some hobby based groups at Meetup.com.
Believe it or not, you will meet really wonderful people at gun ranges! The girls are confident and the boys are polite gentlemen.
I have one young man friend who got tired of doing the on-line dating... discovered the girls on ChristianMingle are mostly damaged goods (psychologically at least), and started dating older ladies... and discovered that was a ton of fun because the women are not needy or feeling their biological clock ticking.
Get out there and be open to new experiences. Approach life and people as if you were an alien meeting all of these for the first time, being open and still analytical.
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06-21-2014, 12:17 PM
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The first thing I noticed is you seem very isolated already, w/out having to seek out some remote island or fortress or whatever. Even your friends are finding ways to not be around you.

This may sound harsh, but it's intended to help, truly: If you don't like society in general, and you have had poor experiences dating women in general, then the problem likely lies inside you, rather than with everyone else. So before you empty your bank account and go schlepping on camel back through the Gobi desert, here's some advice:

Sort your life out. Go see a counselor. People who were physically/mentally abused often (understandably) have problems attaining and/or keeping healthy friendships, romantic r-ships, etc. You may be attracting people who will never really emotionally connect w/you because you find it emotionally too dangerous to connect closely with others. You're probably not consciously aware of your distancing behaviors.

Also, figure out if you're happy with the degree and job you have. If not, take plenty of time to research and develop another career. I wouldn't rush into any major change.

Good luck.
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06-21-2014, 12:30 PM
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u r too good by heart so evrything will b ok .....

concentrate on work as m goin thru the same situation..
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