Couples and their ex - is it ok?

[237]

So I've been dating my girlfriend for about 5 months now. Its came to my attention that her and her ex still keep in touch. Not like texting everyday or something just if they need to get info from each other but when they do, she gives off this weird vibe through her texts. Almost as if they were really good friends. His texts are mutual no flirting or anything. I know this bc i went through her phone just casually and saw these texts. Then I saw his instagram bc curiosity got the best of me and she likes alot of his pics. On the other hand he doesnt. It seems like he doesnt try to talk to her, which is good. We've told we love each other and i trust she means it. I do. On twittter she will tweet random songs lyrics, like for example " i'll miss you like a child misses their blanket, but i have to move on in life". I cant tell if she means her dad or her ex. Her dad passed away 9 yrs ago and she still have trouble with that. So i cant tell if she's referring anybody at all. I know this sounds weird and it may seem like i have some issues but I just want a second opinion from the public. We both care and love each other but it seems that her ex still lingers somewhere through her thoughts even after almost two yrs since they broke up. What do you guys think? How should I comfort her about this? Or should I even? Please some advice would help.

[Steve]

I don't think women should keep in contact with their ex. Not a good thing in my opinion

[me]

On one hand it sounds like she might still have a little crush on him, on the other hand it sounds like you're just paranoid. Hard to tell which one is the actual problem. Maybe it's both.

She shouldn't be liking all his instagram photos, that's a bad sign. Maybe she's doing it to make you jealous? Do you like other girls' photos on instagram? It may have been a reaction to get back at you if so.

I would just ask her straight up if she still has feelings. She might, but sometimes girls come across as flirty when they really do not feel anything romantic towards the person

And meanwhile, stop going through her things. I would have dumped you for even looking without asking permission. Is there really nothing at all on your phone that she'd be bothered by? Maybe a text or two she might misinterpret? Because you might be the one misinterpreting things in this case, how stupid will you feel then?