My mom didn't accept my friend request on Facebook. How can I convince her to accept my request?

[Saraphina]

She said that she is my parent, not my friend and that she won't accept a friend request from me until I move out. I'm 14 so I won't be moving out for at least 4 more years. Why is my mom being like this? I mean it's not like being Facebook friends is going to change our relationship. I know she is my mom and not my friend. She made that clear.

[bdogg]

I'm guessing she has some stuff on her profile that she does not want you to see. I wouldn't worry about it that much.

[Butterscotch]

Wow... usually it's the kids rejecting their parents on Facebook, lol.

I'm guessing your mom doesn't want you to see all the comments her adult friends' are making on Facebook. Some might be a little inappropriate for your age. That's not such a bad thing though. You've still got better access to your mom's life than anybody else. Maybe Facebook gives her a little private space away from the family home where she can just chat alone with her friends for a little while.

Show her some respect. It sounds like you've got a pretty cool mom. :-)

[PetMom]

When my child set up her facebook account, one of the requirements was that she "'friend" me. I saw it as a way to keep tabs on her, the friends she was making in jr/sr high, and what those friends might be experimenting with on their way to maturity. It served that purpose.

However, I have adult friends who occasionally post things that, while I find them informative or humorous, I would prefer that my children not be exposed to them. I'm not foolish enough to think that they will never be exposed to risqué humor or poor choices, I would just prefer that that exposure not come from me. We have open communication and discuss a wide variety of topics, I'd just rather not explain why one of my friends from my youth was arrested for public intoxication and indecent exposure or what one of their aunts thinks about her intimate life.

It's a double edged sword. My daughter is now well into her teens and it embarrasses her if I "like" something or comment on one of her posts. I don't want her to see that some of my adult friends make questionable choices or are occasionally vulgar.

Your Mom may not be saying what you think she is saying. Maybe she realizes that need to give you a little privacy in your interaction with your friends. Maybe she prefers to not know what your friends are up to because she feels that it would bias her against them or prohibit you from some activities she knows you will want to do as a teen. Perhaps she has friends like mine who have cropped up after a number of years and haven't quite matured and she doesn't want you exposed to that. Instead of making it about you, try looking at it from the perspective that she is giving you some freedom.