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HELP I can't forget him. He put me through hell and has a new gf after 4 weeks but I ALWAYS think about him. Why can't I
06-24-2014, 02:05 AM
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HELP I can't forget him. He put me through hell and has a new gf after 4 weeks but I ALWAYS think about him. Why can't I
He put me through hell, yet he has a new girlfriend (after 3 weeks) and I'm upset! How can I forget him? Why do I feel hurt?
My ex/partner is in the Army. He is 25 & i am 21.

We broke up 2 weeks ago and he already has a new girlfriend! They have been to London! And have uploaded photos together!

When i first met my ex/partner, he promised me the world. He took me to central London & we stayed in a nice hotel etc.. He treated me like i never had been treated. He rang me every night etc.


Little did i know, he was in mountains of debt, & was still paying back payday loans and had bailiffs turning up to his house. A few months into the relationship i found myself paying for everything.. i had to drive up to London to his barracks to see him, pay for his food, go on nights out with him and pay, and holidays..

He is also a compulsive liar.

However, he would always talk to/sleep with other girls. He would go out and ring me, & when he was in his room i would hear another girl, then he would hang up. His friends have told me girls have stayed in his barracks on numerous occasions.

Why do I care he has a new girl?

I can't stop checking their facebooks to see if they have pictures together... Does this make me crazy?

I saw a picture of them together on Instagram and it made me feel physically sick!!

But WHY do I still love him after all of this hurt? How am I going to get over it all?!
I wish I could just delete him from my life. He probably isn't thinking about me

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06-24-2014, 02:21 AM
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Lots of women are pre-programmed to be victims. You are just one of many. You very rarely see this kind of post from a man. You also lack self esteem as most would be glad to get shot of this prick. The sooner you can erase all thoughts of him the sooner you will feel better and be able to move on.

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06-24-2014, 02:36 AM
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find one for you and definitely u will forget everthing
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06-24-2014, 02:47 AM
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It&#x27;s very common for someone to still have feelings for an ex. I think that once you meet someone new you will forget about him. But when I was trying to get over my crush I went through the 5 stages of grief. Anyways I hope you get through this.
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06-24-2014, 02:57 AM
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You're not crazy! You're just missing the dopamine influx that being with your boyfriend provided. It's perfectly natural to suffer such a relapse. Remember, as Jesus once said, there's plenty of fish in the sea, and some of the fish of coins in their mouth and you can use those coins to pay for taxes. So forget that stupid SOB and find someone better because believe me, there's someone better.
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06-24-2014, 03:10 AM
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I think it is the forbidden fruit complex. You want what you can't have. I had a boyfriend that I had been with for a fairly long time (a year and a half) and he started, toward the end, to treat me like shit. So, I planned on dumping him but he was able to pull the trigger before me. I was so upset and did just about everything you do. I became obsessed. I even looked up guys on Facebook with the same names (yeah women can be crazy!) but why did I do this? Because he became the forbidden fruit. He made himself something that I can't have by dumping me first.

The way I got over it is I countinuesly though of all the crappy things he did to me and to people in general. Which made so I could move on to a new guy which made myself totally get over him. It hurts to get dumped no matter what the situation is. So, do everything you can to feel better about yourself. Think of all the ways he hurt you, abused you, and used you. Stop eating shitty foods. Eat healthy, workout, and go out and have fun! The best medicine for a breakup is a big FU I love my life and I hate yours.
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