Should I stay friends with them or just move on with life altogether? 10 points best answer.?

[Panda23]

Basically me and my ex girlfriend broke up over 2 years ago, but we stayed friends until recently. Back in April, she just started treating me like crap. She would hit me, yell in my face, and single me out of a group of people and treat me like crap while sucking up to everyone else when the entire group makes a decision she doesn’t like. So a couple of months ago I finally snapped and told her that she was being a pathetic friend and that she was being selfish. But instead of apologizing for doing all this, she threw it back at me, accusing me of stuff I don’t even do. But to make it worse, the stuff she had been accusing me of doing, she had been doing to not only me, but a lot of other friends all along. For two months we have not spoken a word to each other.

Now the problem is that the entire group is never together anymore. I would be willing to work it all out and be friends again, only if she was going to treat me like a friend and instead of like absolute crap like usual. However she isn’t willing to work it out at all. She is too busy blaming everything on me, and hating me all because I called her a bad friend. But what annoys me the most, that all of our mutual friends had seen the way she had been treating me and questioning why I don’t stand up for myself, and now that I have, she blames me entirely. But to make it worse, nobody else actually stands up for me. All it would take to end this whole situation is for one person out of a group of 10 people to stand up and tell her that she actually had been treating me horribly. All of this drama and bull sh*t could be ended by a single person telling her the truth.

Now I am tired of it all. I am tired of the entire situation, and I am questioning whether staying friends with these people is worth it. They all know it could all be ended, but still nobody does anything. Instead they all sit there complaining about how annoying it is that she won’t talk to me. Right now I am considering just deleting my facebook, changing my phone number, and completely cutting all my friends out of my life, and continuing on trying with my university studies because all this is bringing is pain and frustration.

What should I do?
Just thought I would like to add, this relationship lasted six months. It never got more serious than a simple kiss.

[Honestyispolicy]

Ingnore the girl, it sounds really frustrating (as u said) i reccomend just trying to hang out with some different friends for a while. But dont let her be the reason you change you're number. Try to bring patience (as hard as that sounds) and it sounds like maybe if you broke up with her, she still has some unresolved feelings for you. You should try going to coffee with her and talking things out maturily.

[KT]

Do not be friends with this person, if you do its a red flag of pure emotional and verbal abuse, and you have a life going for you, to much for it to be ruined by an ex. Staying friends with ex's are impossible, I know this for a fact. If she cannot handle the truth its obvious she is an A Class Bitch. You deserve something better in a friend and you need to stick up for yourself or all people are going to do is walk all over you.

[sm177]

wow thats quite a situation, if I understand correctly shes kind of with your group of friends and I imagine that they may be holding back because they dont want this anger towards you to be drawn back on them which is what many people fear if they stand up for someone. Its quite cowardly yes but they might also want to avoid getting involved with what was your relationship. I dont know if you could try to explain to your friends and get one to talk to her or all of them, if that would do anything. If not, I would just try and avoid them alltogether, not out of contempt that they wont stand up for you which I think could be difficult here but so you can get some peace, quite hard because they are your friends, re evaluate and re visit this later. I think it unlikely theyre going to kick her out or stand up to her frankly so it may be you who has to leave. Afterall, you dont deserve this and you need some peace. You dont need to annihilate them from your life just take a break perhaps if that makes sense, maybe your ex will come round somehow. But it seems at the moment you at least need to get away from her and the hell shes been at the moment.

[MS]

I think its better for you to leave them! "A frnd in need is a frnd indeed " go on with ur life, l.