My friend is turning everyone against me?!?

[Amy]

Ok so my friend, used to be my best friend, but we seprated, but are still good friends and hang around because we have the same friends. Since school has started in september, shes stopped talking to me, avoides me and goes of with others. I've asked my friends what they think, and all of them have confirmed she doesnt like me, and neither does this other girl, the one she goes of with. They say mean things behind my back like i dont fit in the group, im mean, i should find some new friends, stop bugging the, etc. And they have also been spreading rumours and making up untrue things about me, their trying to get everyone to turn on me. I confronted them, via facebook, and they admited it, they now completly ignore me and the childish behavouir continues. Their acting like im the bad person in this, like im the one in the wrong, and apparently i bully her, which i don't, everyone thinks its the other way around, I don't really want to be their friends but I want it to stop. But how can i confront them face to face? Please help, much love

[Madclass381]

Just ignore all the crap flying around. They're looking for a reaction, and if you don't give it to them then they'll get bored and stop. If its really making you upset then talk to a trusted adult like a teacher or your mom or someone who you trust and like. Good luck<3

[gurl198]

When you hear a rumor or if you see them whispering something, you should walk up to them and, not in an angry way, but in a mature way to stop. Make them realize what they have been doing is wrong and that they can really hurt a person by what they are doing.

[Ally]

I've been through this! My best friend from last year, making all my good friends turn against me from September. But I have new good friends now. Are you sure everyone hates you? I thought everyone hated me, but all the quiet & shy-looking people didn't face their backs to me. Quiet-looking people don't really get involved in this because they have their own strong feelings. You can hardly convince them in this "gossip" kind of situation your BFF made. I'm sorry, but you gotta be patient for like a month and try to find the quiet-looking, non-popular people or ask everyone why they hate you. You can also tell your teacher, parents, or your school counselor if you are brave enough to. Hope this helped

[Natalie]

so you have already confronted them and they have confirmed it via Facebook so officially you could print it and show someone or keep it as evidence until it is needed, as for the confronting face to face situation im not good with confidence but i think you should take someone with you as moral support and then go and confront them because they will see what has happened and be able to back up what happened.

this probably isnt much help but i really hope it does help

[Caitlin]

Im not the best at giving advice but i think you should ask someone you trust like a parent or even anotherr friend to help you confront them about it. What they are doing is wrong and i wonder if they are unaware how much their actions can actually hurt. also i want you to just keep in my that bullies often become bullies because they have been hurt or are being hurt in some way and they are taking it out on people around them. so maybe you should confront but at the same tame make sure if shes ok just ask her how she's doing. If you react angrily or offensive that will only make her happy because that is how she is expecting you to react instead go to her and be like "Hey! How are you? Hows things at home? You want to go see a movie sometimes?" just stuff like that becuase itll throw her off friendship will be the last things shes expecting. Hope this helps.

[chris b]

How can you say that you are still good friends with that girl when she does these things? It's gotten way past the point of no return with this group. It's very easy to confront this situation face to face but in this case it may be best if you post on Facebook and send them all the same message. That way you save yourself the she said this and no, I didn't say that's you'll get if you do it any other way. Say what you want and need to say but get ready for the backlash...it may or may not come.