My best friend became popular and left me?

[swimmer97]

I used to be absolute best friends with this girl. We were best friends for about 9 years - so a very long time. We were best friends all through elementary school and even when we went to different schools in middle school, we still texted and hung out a lot and considered each other "besties". We were both very excited for high school to start so that we could be at the same school, and at the beginning of school it was all good but then she started to change. She suddenly started to become popular (well at least she became part of the most popular group of girls in she grade) and she stopped talking to me. She completely just stopped texting me back, and when i said hey to her on facebook (and she was obviously online) she completely ignored me. Even when i say hi to her in the hallways, she simply looks at me and like raises her highbrows to acknowledge my presence but not say hi. If i dont say hi to her first though, she pretends i don't exist.

What really kills me is how we used to talk about how one of both of our best friends in elementary school left us to become popular and complain about how annoying that was that she ditched us. She also used to complain about all the popular people in her school (when she wasnt part of that group) and how annoying they were.

I just really want her back because she was one of the only people i felt completely comfortable and we had so much fun together! I know that she is not a good friend at all, actually a terrible friend, and i feel some strong hatred towards her and i feel very betrayed, but i still wish we could at least be friends.

We are not even acquaintances anymore. Basically went from best friends to strangers in a matter of about 1 month. :/

I literally started crying while writing this because it is hurting me so much. :'/

[Madison Matthew]

That happens to everyone. You'll be okay and you will find new friends! Good luck

[Nargiza]

Don't worry you'll be fine . I've had a similar situation my best friend changed too . It's okay once a door closes another one opens. I was mad at my best friend for a while but then finally stopped caring about it and now I don't care at all . It'll take time but you'll be fine make new friends you'll make better friends and figure out who you are and also people change especially in high school nd really begin to figure out who they are . Good luck

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Happens to almost everyone, just find new friends. Join clubs, meet friends through your other friends and try and be outgoing in class and stuff but at the same time focus on school. But... if you really want her to become your friend again call her and start a conversation and like ask "Why don't you ever talk to me anymore" or something... Now that may not be the best move but you can always try. And also another possibilty is try and join the popular group, don't make it so obvious but like if you have classes with them and they sit close to you try and start a convo or ask questions or something.

[Snow queen]

I know exactly how that feels and it is a horrible horrible feeling. It would be easy for me to just say 'Just ignore it' but i know it's not that easy. I had a best friend when i went to secondary school and she totally went off with another girl and left me on my own, literally i had no friends. This was about 14 years ago but i remember it like it was yesterday.

It has taught me (and i don't blame you for not knowing this as you are young) to not put all my eggs in one basket. By this (sorry, English saying lol) i mean try to broaden your circle of friends instead of having just one main friend. Like i say, i had that one best friend and we did everything together and i wasn't interested in finding new friends until......she went off and left me/laughed at me/took the mick out of me. It is so important to have different sets of friends and it is more mentally healthy too. Try to start chatting to some other people (it doesn't matter if they aren't in the popular gang) and trust me, they will end up being more loyal to you than her! Try to ignore her because it sounds like she doesn't deserve to be talked to by you.

By no means do i mean be nasty or anything, because two wrongs do not male a right. Just show her that you have your head held high and that your life does not revolve around her. Trust me, i've been there!

Hope it works out x