Moms: Would you accept your son to be gay / bi?

[Mitch]

I'm a guy that just graduated high school. Their was a lot of likes and comments that were good. When I go to my local football game. Some of my high school friends that are still in high school saw it and ask me if it was a hack and if i was gay. I told them it was a hack and they were glad that I'm not gay. I am not sure if I did the right thing. I came out by this status
" I have something important to say. I'm gay. I am what I am and it's time to stop hiding it.
I am still the same person I was before. I know that many people will not recognize this, and I will
probably lose many friends. Many of you will say, "I knew it!" on the subject of my being homosexual. But those claims were made with no legitimate proof, and coincedentally I really was gay. But now it's time you should all know-- for real. I do not find every male I see attractive, so don't flatter yourselves.If you don't like me for being gay, or if it has made me lose your respect, please delete me from your friends list. I don't need to deal with hateful people like you. Bye and thanks, everyone."
I had a friend that told one of my friends about the status and i wasn't aware of it. The told friend asked me why I have two facebooks and I said it was my coming out account. She said that she knew because of her friend. Will the word spread that quickly? The only problem now that is remaining that my parents dont know that I'm gay yet. I would keep it a secret but if I have to. I would tell my mom about it but I dont want her to tell my dad. How could I bring it up to her in the house without my other family members hearing it? Can I talk to her face to face about it or could I bring it up with a text message or a note? Is it possible to tell another adult about this like a church staff member. I e mailed a woman who worked their 2 months ago and told he i want to tell her something private and she says that i could talk to her about anything or one of the church people. Its been two months without telling her, but now I want to tell her. I dont want to tell my mom without being prepared about it. i am ashamed by it a bit.
I dont know any gay guys, I am the only gay in the family, I will loose a couple of friends, and I heard stories that the parents throw out their gay / lesbians sons and daughters. I am not ashamed by that but afraid of the future. I have a crush on a guy during the last semester. I friended him on facebook and said whats up and responded " not much" Only that. It was some random guy I saw in my lunch period. He is one grade lower than me and he's black athlete that played football this year. I think he also played basketball also. I had some weird situation when he came into the place where I was working at and he played some basketball in there. Yeah I think i still like him, but it wont work out.

[ashley]

There is nothing wrong with ur sexuality! You are who u r like u sed ur the same person! It shouldnt matter to anyone which sex u choose prefer everyone are equals. you are perfect the way you are dont change urself for anyone

[Jessica]

It shouldn't matter if a person is gay,lesbain, bisexual or whatever. All that should matter is that if the two people are happy and they love each other, they should be allowed to get married or date without people stating at them like they have five heads? I actually have 3 gay friends and there is absolutely nothing wrong with them! I'm jut going to say that you are so right when you said, I'm still the same person I was before you found out I was gay, an your love for me shouldn't change or you shouldn't look at me differently. I'm still the same person and always will be, I just like the same gender. Nothing wrong with that!

[Deena]

dynamitemassage@yahoo.com. Write me if you ever need to talk. Even if you just need to vent for a while! My uncle is gay and my family has always been accepting of it. He is NO different to us now than when he played it straight. I believe your true friends will stick by your side. I would say DON'T tell a church staff member. They sometimes believe being gay is a choice, which it is NOT. My best advice is to talk to a guidance counselor. They will tell you the best way to bring it up to your mom. Chances are your mom LOVES YOU FOR YOU, she will accept you if you are gay, straight, bi, anything! Moms are kinda like that! As far as the text or note goes, you don't want to do that because it could be miss constrewed as a joke. Also if you talk to her in person you give her the chance to see how much you are hurting inside trying to play it straight. Also if you talk to her in person she is more likely to listen to you when you say "don't tell dad". Be proud of who you are. It takes ALOT to feel comfortable comming out. It may not feel good at first, but I promise you it gets better, and easier. Those people who don't accept you for you don't deserve to be your friend anyway. And btw, black boys are the hottest!

[Antonio]

there are some parents that will understand you but there are others like you said you would tell your mom but not your dad your mom can't keep it all her life and sooner or later everyone will know

also if you have friends in if you tell someone then the word will go on until the last friend hears it

its your life in you can live it the way you wont to you may have to move out but you will be able to start your gay life in find someone you can love ( as a guy i really don't know why im writing this but what ever)

[bj]

While all are sitting down dinner or what ever tell them .Its a normal thing today.parents have unconditional love and should,nt throw their kids out for their sexual prefrence.I have a neice who was bi she was with this chic for a few years ,now she is back to men.

[WordsWorth_01]

I wish I could just give you the biggest mom hug! Your fear is legitimate since you don't know how your family will react. As for your friends, you'll find out who your true friends are. Have courage and do what's best for you. Good luck!