My Mom Wants To Know Everything?

[Mazin]

So im a 14 year old male,and my mom wants to know everything about me.She has gotten into my facebook and read all my private messages and violated my privacy.She also looked at all my statuses and told me i sound gangster and black....I am well liked in school,i get good grades and have 3 accelerated classes (classes above your age level).My family is muslim and i personally dont agree with the religion,but i dont have a problem with anyone that practices it.I really dont know my religion yet or what i believe in so yea.Also my mom expects me to be all nice and caring like i was when i was younger,but i grew up and faced the real world and i think that she has to realize that.We have grown apart over the years and she does not trust me at all.My computer is in the middle of the family room so everyone can see what im doing anytime,and as a result,i cant talk to any of my friends online.Also,everybody else in my house has a working phone but me,even though my sister got one when she was my age.My sister is a goody goody two shoes that never curses,is overweight,and she gets good grades,but no accelerated classes,unlike me.Yet she has her own laptop that my parents dont even monitor,an iphone,an ipod nano,and an ihome.All i have is a computer that i have to share and a nonworking phone and an xbox i never go on.Another thing is my mom is addictied to shopping/coupons.She buys stuff that we dont even need just because it was cheap,and our basement is filled with food.This doesnt make it easy trying to lose weight while there are cookies everywhere.And even though im interested in girls,i know that even if i were to get a girlfriend,she could never meet my family because muslims.dont believe in boyfriend girlfriend relationships.This would make it very hard to have a good time with my girlfriend at all.All im asking is,how to i get my mom to accept me for who i am and have become?

[Serene E]

sigh.......teens and parents have been havng this conflict between privacy of the teen, trust and safety of the teen by the parents. There's all kinds of things on the internet no parents want you looking at. It's normal, it's right for them to monitor your internet activity and any parent that doesn't is stupid.

NORMAL!!!!!!

[Fran UK Man]

If you want to flirt with girls, date them, have them as friends, etc you will need to ditch the strict Muslim upbringing in your family. You can't have both. You can have a g/f with your mother's approval in a few years, if she has her way. So you have to decide. But you can't move anywhere at the moment, so you have to go along with it. Oh! Get rid of the gangsta stuff - we laugh at it these days.

[Mark]

Damn so this is some series stuff so to me it sounds like you wan to live a normal typical american boy life right and your parents are expecting you to be this goody good muslim boy with there religion and all there rules right so what i would is let them seee all your stuff for like aweeek let them knoe how know. You are and how you have great coool conversations with your friends ask them to be a little more chill and normal then show them your friends abd girls you like you knoe show then the goood things mainly do alll the goood stuff so that they cab actuallly get to trust at one point u knoe so i mean if that doesnt wrk out then just do allk the bad things and make them think that you are going threw a. Ery tuff stage in your life lol and just get the. To think that they need to get you back in the right track son kool dont worrry youll be fine

[morgan hill]

stop complaining. there are parents out there who beat, starve, and molest their children. you have parents who care about you. if your mom is checking up on you its because she loves you and wants you to stay out of trouble. it might be annoying, but consider the alternative. at least they dont ignore you and let you do whatever you want. i had friends in school whos parents didnt care about what they did and at 14 they were on crack, ok? as for the muslim thing, until you are 18 or out of their house, you have to play by their rules. when you are grown you can pick for yourself. and dude, dont hate on your sister just because you hate your life. its not her fault, i mean if shes older than you, of course she has all that stuff, and shes probably more trustworthy too. and btw calling your sister overweight because she has a phone and you dont makes you sound like an immature jerk,.. *just sayin*

[James Thundernuts]

Since you're a minor, you don't have a right to privacy, although I don't blame you for wanting it. If I were you, I would try to find sneaky ways to get around your mom.... like only accessing your Facebook account from friends' computers or procuring something like an iPod touch that you can use at home inconspicuously. Be a stealth n*gga.