Moms: Would you accept your son to be gay / bi?

[Mitch]

I'm a guy that just graduated high school. Their was a lot of likes and comments that were good. When I go to my local football game. Some of my high school friends that are still in high school saw it and ask me if it was a hack and if i was gay. I told them it was a hack and they were glad that I'm not gay. I am not sure if I did the right thing. I came out by this status
" I have something important to say. I'm gay. I am what I am and it's time to stop hiding it.
I am still the same person I was before. I know that many people will not recognize this, and I will
probably lose many friends. Many of you will say, "I knew it!" on the subject of my being homosexual. But those claims were made with no legitimate proof, and coincedentally I really was gay. But now it's time you should all know-- for real. I do not find every male I see attractive, so don't flatter yourselves.If you don't like me for being gay, or if it has made me lose your respect, please delete me from your friends list. I don't need to deal with hateful people like you. Bye and thanks, everyone."
I had a friend that told one of my friends about the status and i wasn't aware of it. The told friend asked me why I have two facebooks and I said it was my coming out account. She said that she knew because of her friend. Will the word spread that quickly? The only problem now that is remaining that my parents dont know that I'm gay yet. I would keep it a secret but if I have to. I would tell my mom about it but I dont want her to tell my dad. How could I bring it up to her in the house without my other family members hearing it? Can I talk to her face to face about it or could I bring it up with a text message or a note? Is it possible to tell another adult about this like a church staff member. I e mailed a woman who worked their 2 months ago and told he i want to tell her something private and she says that i could talk to her about anything or one of the church people. Its been two months without telling her, but now I want to tell her. I dont want to tell my mom without being prepared about it. i am ashamed by it a bit.
I dont know any gay guys, I am the only gay in the family, I will loose a couple of friends, and I heard stories that the parents throw out their gay / lesbians sons and daughters. I am not ashamed by that but afraid of the future. I have a crush on a guy during the last semester. I friended him on facebook and said whats up and responded " not much" Only that. It was some random guy I saw in my lunch period. He is one grade lower than me and he's black athlete that played football this year. I think he also played basketball also. I had some weird situation when he came into the place where I was working at and he played some basketball in there. Yeah I think i still like him, but it wont work out.

[george]

Being gay is in your DNA, part of your biology. You cant change it, its hardwired into you. So dont be ashamed, just tell your mum, shell understand! Im not a mum, but im sure mums will agree!

[suzwiz3]

I have a son, if he told me he was gay, it wouldn't make a bit of difference to me. I love him no matter what. He is my child.

[Not tonight]

I do not believe being gay is part of your DNA. There are always exceptions to the rule, as in being born a hermaphrodite, etc. Most of the bi- people i have known were sexually abused. They freely admit that, and that has nothing to do with a person's character. Depending on the abuse, one might understand. I love my sister completely and she likes both. A man tried to rape her at work. I love my children completely. I wouldn't stop talking to them or reject them for what they say, but I would most certainly try to figure out WHY they decided that. I may be persecuted for this, but I believe some bi- homo- behavior is a learned behavior or one done out of self preservation. Not that I would fault someone of this. I would absolutely still love my child. Sex has nothing to do with it. I would try to help them if I sensed a problem. I don't know if you would consider my response acceptance or no. I am not like my husband that says he would disown them. sorry but if you love and care about someone, you can't just shut it off.

[Mama Mia]

I think that out of courtesy and , it would have been best to speak to your mother privately and tell her about your sexual preference. This is not something that she should hear from the neighbors or be blindsided by at church. Some people thrive on dropping bombs on other parents , just because it makes them feel self righteous or powerful. it is probably something she has suspected for a long time , but maybe she has no idea and that would be a real slap to have not heard it from you. That way she can have some time to digest this information before she tells your father, or someone else does. the fact is, someone is going to tell them , and if you are old enough to have decided to divulge this publiclyly, they deserve to hear it from you first.

[Sue C]

Mitch, a Mother's love is like no other. There is just some special connection a mother has for her children - my opinion. I have 3 now adult Children. The first 2 from a very young first marriage that didn't turn out. They are only 16 mons. apart in age. I remarried, had another son 8 yrs. later. ALL were always good kids growing up. The first 2 both got married. The 3rd one "dated" a couple girls which nothing amounted to, even tried living with one that didn't work out. His very BEST friend for yrs. was a girl his age. They did EVERYTHING together, traveled around the states together. I always wondered WHY he didn't chose her for a girlfriend throughout the yrs. They were like brother & sister & he is the God Father to her 2 children. I noticed he just didn't date, but tho't nothing about it - to each their own. He then started going to private clubs in a near by large city. None of us knew about the clubs as he doesn't even drink or party. We then found they were gay clubs. NONE of the family criticized him or say a word about it. He then started bringing guys along with him when he visited us. Of course we then KNEW he is gay, didn't even have to "tell" us. He didn't date many, did have 1 he really cared for, even lived with him for a short while. He then broke up with him due to an illness he had no control over which my Son was unable to deal with. He then met "the one". They dated & then lived together. After a yr.+, they decided they wanted to make it "official". BTW, I truly believe it IS a certain gene they are born with, I KNOW it is NOT out of "choice". We ALL think the world of his Partner. Is one SUPER person liked by all walks of life. He is the Pres. of 5 large clinics in the nearby large city & does excellent for himself. I choose to call a Marriage between a husband & wife, a Union by same sex couples regardless if they themselves call it a Marriage. It's been a couple yrs. now since their "Wedding", I sat & cried the SAME as I did when his Sister & Brother got married. It was a beautiful ceremony held in their beautiful home & had the reception there also. I do not think any less of my Son than I ever did. He's the same loving Son I've always had & will have. I would not be afraid to tell your mom. Simply tell her you want to have a serious talk with her, let her know you've realized you're attracted more to males than females. She may have already surmised this by now if you've not been dating. Especially in this day & age where it no longer is a deep dark secret & is so freely discussed by all. Ask her if at the moment she doesn't say anything to your dad & others you prefer not to know. At some point in time you KNOW it will be known, but you're just not ready to let it be know yet. However, you did want her to know now & trust she'll still love & accept you as you are. Just take your time, you'll know when you feel ready to have it be known. Do KNOW however it is NOT by choice, it's the way you were born, there is NOTHING, no reason to be ashamed of it. With my Son & Partner, on all outward "appearances" no one would know either are gay. KNOW you WILL be OK when you decide to let it be known. IF someone/anyone is against it, that's entirely on them...I SO DO wish you the very best...