Am i selfish or a bad person for this?

[Killies]

Hi im 20y single mother to a 4y and i just broke up with my gf we been together for 8-9 months it was really good i felt that kind of complete feeling when i was with her but she felt i didn't put enough love or time into it but she couldn't understand that she can't have my attention 100% of the time i have a daughter that is wanting me just as much as she wanted me well basically she said to me if your not going to put your hole heart into this relationship i'm going to leave. well i got pretty angry and told her to f*ck off and get out of my house im wondering if i did the right thing i loved her very much but i felt she was making me choose between her or my daughter in any circumstances i would always choose my daughter over anyone. but it's been 4 days now and my friends have notice i have been drinking much more then what i used to like every night i'd usually have 2-3 glass's of wine but now it's turned into 1-2 bottles of wine i know it's not good im still quiet capable of looking after my daughter i still get up in the morning and do all my usual things like breakfast,work,ETC but so it won't go down hill i have chucked out all alcohol in the house i know it won't get that bad but is kind of nice not having alcohol in the house yea i know it may sound weird lol oh and a friend of mine said i looked butch i know im abit tomboyish but can someone really look butch?

I think lonlyness is geting to me T^T


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[reme_1]

I'm glad you got rid of the wine. Every night drinking is NOT good for you- no matter how little.
One night you might have gone too far and needed to be there for your daughter in an emergency and you couldn't function. How would you live with yourself after that?
You are not being selfish by telling your gf that you need time with your daughter and she has to understand that.
Sometimes it is hard for a person without a child to really get it.

Regarding lonliness, forget that for the time being. It has only been 4 days and you'll already breaking down? It is time to get yourself together and decide what you really want.
Hang out with friends, enjoy your alone time with your little one on a play date.
Get to know you again.
And don't worry about whether you are butch or tomboyish. Be who you are.

[Amane]

I think so.