Is a long distance relationship ever a good idea?

[Chris]

Yeah, I'm pretty desperate to have a girlfriend now (I've got years ahead of me but that's not part of the question) I had a thing with a girl for a while but I've been single for 3 years. Im considering just like hunting facebook and stuff to find someone that is interested. I would just love to have a girlfriend to be honest. Just to have an amazing friend would be the best. I'm not going into detail cause that would be too cheesy but yeah, is trying to get in a long distance relationship a good thing? Just something about finially meeting a girl I love and stuff seems fun, just finially meeting them all this other stuff that's really cheesy. Anyway, just a couple if answers would be nice, thanks, Chris.
To the annoying person that said "I'm not suprised you don't have a girlfriend" well, I dont really see anything wrong with a guy trying to find actual love. Considering all I hear is "how are you single" and "you would be the best boyfriend ever" it kind of gets annoying when they say that and then go on about how they don't like me in that way though. Sorry for wanting to have a girlfriend.....

[2-Tone]

If you're going to hunt that hard for it, it'll never turn out well. You are trying to fill a gap with anyone. Being "inlove" is accidentally running into someone that fills the gap no one else could. Long-distance, or not.

[LoneVoice]

People can make it work if they have the desire. Depends on the people involved. Good luck.

[Samuel]

Mehh I guess their ok tbf. I had one, I'm from the UK and I went out with a girl from Canada. She was awesomeeee but after a while I found it really hard cause I couldn't see her properly or anything and it got kind of pathetic so I thought it would be best to just leave her which I did and I tried to stay friends with her but after kind of liking her a lot it seemed silly.
I guess it would work if later on in life you know that's the person you want to be with, because then you can move nearer to where they live or they move near to you and then you start a solid relationship. You have to be able to trust them 100% as well, cause for all you know they could be smashing other boys and you wouldn't have a clue. On the other hand if it works out then it's awesome.
I really suggest you watch some Youtube videos. Type in 'long distance relationships' and when you see the expression on peoples face when they meet for the first time and how they act towards each other it's like aww.
It all depends what you want from a relationship though. One of the other reasons I went out with that girl from Canada is because I really want to migrate there when I'm around 23 and then how she seemed so cool and just awesome it all kind of fell into place

[Julia]

Well long distance relationships are never a good idea, one of you will cheat no doubt. Also, if you're crazy enough to search like that, I'm not surprised you don't have a girlfriend?

[ஜ۩۞۩ஜ Gary]

If your young don't rush it & don't go looking because in most cases it will find you.

From personal experience long distance is a bad idea, that said if you find 'The One' then I can't see any reason why not, so long as you organise time for each other & can talk every chance you get.

But in all honestly you should look for someone closer to home & avoid trolling for women of Facebook & try dating sites(if old enough) or socialise & wait for the right person to find you.

[HI!]

Is shooting your penis off a good idea? No, its a really bad idea. LOng distance never works out buddy, trust whats the point of having someone so far away and dating them if you cant see them? In that case date a cyber nerd chick and never meet her.

[Fallen_Angel]

Well I was in a relationship for 4 yrs than he left and when I would call him or he would call me he would be talking about wanting to date other people. So I left him and now I'm in a good relationship with the perfect guy. So what I'm trying to say is do you want to put yourself in a place that I was in. Now if you just want to be friends thats a different story

[Jenna]

Long distance relationships are really, really difficult. It takes a lot of patience, a lot of work, and a lot of money. I've been in THREE! So I have plenty of experience in this. I find that if you know the person first and then they move and the relationship becomes long distance that it works better than if the relationship starts long distance. The first few months of relationships are fragile. You are getting to know each other. You need time together, to feel the butterflies and the spark or whatever, and you don't really get that the same way in a long distance relationship. Gas or plane tickets are a killer. Communication is difficult, especially if there is a time difference. There are a lot of jealousy and trust issues, too. Sometimes I sit here wondering, "what is he doing right now?" And there is no way to know. When you get into a LDR, you are going to be on different wave lengths, too. She is going to want to text you every day and expect a call from you three times a week, but you on the other hand will want to text every day and only call once a week. Something along those lines. She might want to text you every other day but you want to text her all day every day. These things happen and they lead to big arguments. You have to be a superb communicator. When you get in fights, there is no make up time. You don't get to apologize and give them a hug and kiss and convey how much you care. You get to text them and tell them sorry and hope they believe it. There are good parts about LDRs, though. You get to have time to yourself. You don't have to spend every waking moment with that person. You can keep aspects of your life private that you don't want her knowing about. You get to travel when you go visit her. You meet new people in new places and try new things. It's a hard situation but when you get it to work, it's wonderful. I'm currently dating a guy who lives 5 hours away. Before that, I was dating a guy in North Carolina(I'm in Texas), and before that, my boyfriend of three years moved to canada for school. Let me tell you, I would never volunteer for a long distance relationship. Sometimes it's out of your control. If it happens, it happens. But never go searching for one lol. It's not a pleasant experience.

[Jessica]

Aww, no! I don't blame you at all!!! I have never actually had a boyfriend myself and to be honest, I agree. It would be so nice to have someone that truly loved me. I am not short of offers, but like you said, I would would much rather have actual love than date someone just for the sake of a relationship!

Long distance relationships are difficult. I have had a few friends who have been in them. If the person you are in a relationship is the one, then both of you will strive to make it work. You have to keep up the contact, be prepared to be able to talk whenever she needs you too, even though you cannot physically hold her, you have to be able to 'be there.' You have to let her know she's in your thoughts, let her know that you still love her and the distance is doing nothing but making you appreciate the time you have together. Send her cards or a hand written letter once a month or so, text her in the morning, in the afternoon, in the evening and before you go to sleep. That way, she knows that she is the first thought on your mind in the morning, the first thought before/after lunch, the first thought when you get home and your first and last thought before you go to sleep. If she loves you, she'd do the same. You just have to remember that if you haven't met them yet they may not be what they seem.

P.S. I think you are really sweet, based on your questions and your good looking too. I am actually surprised you don't have a girlfriend!